90 Day Fiance couple Deavan Clegg and Jihoon Lee are close to having a real wedding on Season 2 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way, so what happened to their relationship after that? Are Deavan and Jihoon still married or has the couple split -- and what's the latest on their relationship?


[90 Day Fiance Spoilers Warning: This report contains spoilers that reveal if Deavan Clegg and Jihoon Lee are still together or have split up.]

Deavan was a 22-year-old from Salt Lake City, UT, when she met Jihoon, a 29-year-old mobile phone dealer from Seoul, South Korea, on a dating app.


Deavan and Jihoon communicated through a language-translation app for several months before Jihoon traveled to America to meet Deavan and her daughter Drascilla, now five, from a previous relationship.

Jihoon and Deavan got pregnant with her second child during Jihoon's visit. The pair discovered Deavan was expecting on the day Jihoon was scheduled to leave the United States and fly back to South Korea in 2018.

After Deavan received a blessing from Jihoon's parents to marry their son, Jihoon proposed marriage when the couple took a fun trip to Las Vegas.

Jihoon missed Deavan's C-section because she had to deliver the baby earlier than expected in April 2019, but Jihoon promised he'd make it up to his wife and be a good father.

Once Deavan thought Taeyang was old enough to fly, she and her baby moved to South Korea. (Deavan left Drascilla behind in order to make sure she could provide a happy stable life for her family.)

Deavan expected Jihoon to be working full-time with an apartment for them, but Deavan got stuck living with Jihoon's parents in their one-bedroom apartment for several months.

Jihoon was also in debt, as he apparently owed $30,000 (which included interest on a loan he had taken out to pay the original $15,000 fine) due to illegally selling used and lost phones.

Despite Deavan's concerns, she and Jihoon still filed marriage papers so she could reside in Jihoon's country permanently. And three weeks later, they had a traditional Korean wedding ceremony.

Deavan documented her relationship with Jihoon in Summer through Fall 2019 on social media and started a small T-shirt business with Jihoon that was doing well at the time.


Deavan announced on Instagram in October 2019 she had lost her third child and suffered a miscarriage.

On Season 2 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way, Deavan flew back to South Korea again with the goal of living there permanently and having a happy family.

But Jihoon was still only working part-time, and Deavan was disgusted by the apartment they were initially going to move into. She called the area "the ghetto of Korea."

Deavan refused to stay in the apartment and threatened to leave, and Jihoon felt like an "idiot."

"I don't think I want to be together anymore after this," noted Deavan, who felt like she had sacrificed everything for her relationship. "I am going to get a hotel tonight with just my mom so I can be alone with the kids and think."

Jihoon realized it was probably "game over" for him and this was the "last straw" for Deavan, and Deavan was shown swearing at Jihoon and seemingly losing all faith in him.

But Deavan decided to give Jihoon another chance, only to be disappointed again shortly afterward when Jihoon apparently let go of Drascilla's hand and she went running towards a city street.

"He better f-cking step up, 'cause she'll f-cking die!" Deavan's mother Elicia yelled.

Deavan believed the incident had proved Jihoon was not ready for a family and she had made a mistake by moving to South Korea.

"Nothing is Jihoon's fault. It's always someone else's fault, so I have no sympathy when he cries in front of me," Deavan said, adding that if Jihoon wanted his freedom, he could have it.

"You guys are more important to me," Jihoon replied. "I'll become a better dad because I really love you guys."


In the mid-season finale of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way's second season, Elicia didn't trust Jihoon to take care of his family and financially provide for Deavan and the kids, and she simply told her daughter, "I think you're screwed."

But Deavan wanted to give Jihoon the benefit of the doubt since she loved him and wanted her son to grow up with his father.

But Deavan remained optimistic Jihoon wanted to change and would become a better husband and father, and she was willing to give him one final chance.

Deavan just told Jihoon to stop taking money from people, including his mother, and Jihoon acknowledged his marriage was "hanging by a thread."

After a month of Deavan being in South Korea, she and Jihoon were shown moving into a new apartment. Deavan was so glad to have a new home she could feel comfortable in for at least one year.

Deavan and Jihoon then began planning a real wedding.

"I'm really hopeful for the future at this point because it really feels like things are falling into place for us. I just hope Jihoon can continue working hard, because I can't do this alone anymore," Deavan said in a confessional.

Jihoon had switched jobs to selling used phones to make more money, but Deavan made sure nothing "sketchy" was happening since he had sold phones illegally before.

But Deavan soon discovered she wouldn't be able to have the wedding of her dreams. She only had the reception venue for one hour, and the venue -- which resembled a concert hall -- wasn't exactly elegant, according to Deavan.

"It just feels my childhood dream is destroyed," Deavan said.


Later, Deavan said she caught Jihoon looking at naked girls in his phone. Deavan reminded Jihoon that he was married, and she asked why he had selfies of women.

Jihoon said he had found them online and downloaded modeling photos, but Deavan argued they weren't modeling photos and he shouldn't need to look at other women when he has a wife to look at naked.

Jihoon explained that men have so many sexual desires, and he told the cameras he and his wife didn't have sex often. Jihoon explained he needed to use his hand often to please himself.

Deavan told Jihoon that him masturbating to photos of other women was "cheating" in her mind.

Deavan asked Jihoon if he had ever cheated on her in the past, and Jihoon promised, "I have never... I swear to God. I never touched another girl [with my] hand. I am very pure and innocent."

Jihoon owned up to cheating on an ex-girlfriend because she had refused to sleep with him for two or three months. Jihoon, however, insisted he would never cheat on Deavan because he truly loved her and never really loved his ex.

Deavan found Jihoon's past indiscretion worrying because they had spent much longer than three months apart during their long-distance relationship. Deavan noted, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," but Jihoon said his past was in the past.

"To find out he was unfaithful in his past is way worse than any naked photo," Deavan told the cameras. "Now my concern level went from 80 percent to 120 percent."

Deavan asked Jihoon to delete all the photos of women in his phone, and Jihoon agreed to do that. He also said he would cut his private parts if Deavan caught him downloading more photos in the future.

Deavan later revealed she had suffered a miscarriage while in South Korea.

"A few weeks ago, we found out I was pregnant again, and at first, I was really scared. We just had Taeyang and we are definitely not financially stable enough for another one," Deavan shared.

"But then I got really excited -- stuff happens for a reason. A baby is always a blessing and I was accepting of it and ready to do it. However, we did get some devastating news recently. When I went to a checkup and they did an ultrasound, that's when we figured out that we lost the baby."

Deavan said she felt "very sad" and never thought a miscarriage would happen to her in her lifetime. She called the loss the hardest thing she's ever been through, adding that she was "very devastated."


Deavan explained her body just couldn't handle the pregnancy, maybe because she had gone through so much stress at the time, but she intended to focus on the positive with Jihoon's love and support.

Jihoon told the cameras he was trying very hard to be nice to Deavan, who noted the miscarriage had brought Jihoon and herself closer together. Deavan said she loved Jihoon and he helped her through the "tragic" event.

"Us fighting about money, fighting about the apartment, fighting about loyalty -- us losing this baby made us realize how much we care about each other and it's not worth the petty little fights anymore," Deavan told the cameras.

"It's really caused us to bond and stop fighting and just be there for each other."

Deavan said that much to her surprise, Jihoon's mother had also been there for her during the difficult time and the pair were continuing to improve their relationship.

The latest episode featured Deavan and Jihoon's wedding only three days away, and Deavan couldn't wait for her parents to arrive in South Korea. Deavan wanted to prove to her parents that things were better and Jihoon was doing a good job.

"I want everything to be perfect," Deavan noted, before picking her parents and sister up at the airport along with Jihoon, Jihoon's mother, Drascilla and little Taeyang.

Jihoon told the cameras he was about to piss his pants upon seeing Elicia again, and Elicia hoped to see the alleged changes in Jihoon with her "own eyes."

Deavan said it was so important for Jihoon to make a better impression on her mother because she wanted her family to approve of her husband and be happy for their marriage.

Deavan and Jihoon were together in early 2020 when COVID-19 began spreading

At the beginning of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way's second season, Deavan was shown waiting out the coronavirus pandemic while living in South Korea.

The footage filmed earlier this year, around February or March, and was seemingly intended for TLC's 90 Day Fiance: Self-Quarantined spinoff.

Deavan shared how COVID-19 was "very serious" where she was staying in South Korea. She said South Korea was the second country with the most infected people and so she and Jihoon were in quarantine in an apartment together.


Deavan admitted her daughter Drascilla was going stir crazy and her son Taeyang couldn't play outside.

"They're predicting 60 percent of the country could get the virus, and that's really scary. Everyone is in panic mode, and I don't know what to do," Deavan told her Diary Cam.

(90 Day Fiance: The Other Way then flashed back to seven months earlier, when Deavan was preparing for her move to South Korea with her two kids.)

Deavan returned to the United States in May, according to In Touch Weekly, which prompted speculation she and Jihoon's relationship was on the rocks.

But in early June, Deavan conducted an interview with Access in which she said she was really excited for fans to see more of her relationship with Jihoon on Season 2 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.

"It's very exciting. I'm so excited to continue my journey and share my journey. I'm really, really excited that people get to see me and Jihoon and more of that aspect, because I think on Season 1 people didn't get to see too much of us," Deavan said.

"But this time, everyone will get to see that and this beautiful journey. You guys are going to see definitely some of our lowest points and some of our highest points, so it's going to be worth the watch."

Deavan assured Access that Jihoon "loves [being a father]."

"It's definitely a life-changing thing for him and I think he's very happy with it, even though it was a surprise to both of us. But he absolutely loves both kids," Deavan shared.

Despite the ups and downs in her relationship with Jihoon, Deavan called starring on the 90 Day Fiance with him "a great experience" that was "life-changing."

On June 17, Jihoon posted a funny picture of Deavan holding a large box of condoms, and Deavan commented, "Jihoon knows how to work it whoot whoot," suggesting their relationship was just fine.

Given the box said the condoms were "small pecker condoms," Deavan clarified, "Hahahahaha haha everyone knows it was a joke."

Deavan also posted a selfie of herself modeling in a really nice home or apartment that month that didn't seem to be in South Korea. Deavan assured one of her followers she was "just visiting" her family in Utah.


And in early July, Jihoon lashed out at haters, insisting he got a job and was able to support his family.

"Distinguish between show and reality. And the show is in the past," Jihoon wrote on Instagram.

"I've said countless times that I have a job. My job is to deliver food. I earn enough money to take care of my family. If you read this and you tell me to get a job, from now on, I'm thinking of you as a goldfish with a memory of three seconds."

Deavan's mother Elicia also supported the idea Deavan and Jihoon were separated but only temporarily. In late July, Elicia revealed on social media that Deavan had been "stuck" in America with her two kids while Jihoon remained in South Korea, according to In Touch.

"She is visiting here, but the travel restrictions have forced her to be here longer," Elicia wrote, adding, "[Deavan and Drascilla] are stuck here until travel restrictions are lessened because of the virus."

Elicia saying Deavan was "visiting," "stuck" and "forced" to be in the U.S. suggested Deavan was trying to get back to South Korea to be with Jihoon again.

And around that time, Jihoon took to Instagram on July 19 with an image that read, "If love is deep, longing becomes pain."

Deavan claims Jihoon did a "disgusting thing" that made her flee from Korea

While it seemed like Deavan and Jihoon were still together as of late July, it appears Deavan and her mom were just trying to cover up the truth, probably to avoid 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way spoilers on the current status of Deavan and Jihoon's relationship.

In mid-August, Deavan wrote on Twitter she had "moved back" to the United States for a "horrible reason," according to In Touch.

"[The] truth will come out eventually," Deavan wrote in a since-deleted tweet.

"You all really believe everything you see on TV," she added. "You guys don't know the truth or half of it."


Deavan also vented in her Instagram Stories about how 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way viewers know very little about her struggles in 2020.

"If you guys only knew the disgusting things that happened this year off camera," Deavan wrote.

While Deavan didn't cite her problems to Jihoon or even say he was involved with the "disgusting things," it's probably safe to assume their marriage had been on the rocks for a while leading up to that point.

"If you knew everything going on in this very moment," Deavan continued in her post. "Knew what I'm doing and going through, the scars that happen this year. Enjoy the show. #90dayfiance."

Deavan also explained in her Instagram Stories how 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way viewers didn't see what really happened in the Season 2 episode when Drascilla took off running towards a street and she fought with her husband over his lack of attentiveness and care for her children.

Deavan recalled of the Drascilla incident, "She ran off and a car almost hit her and instead of grabbing her, he turned around and started screaming at me in front of my mother for a while -- [none] of that part was caught on film... You guys didn't see what really happened and I'm very upset about that."

Deavan continued, "I'm not gonna say exactly what he said, because I can't remember... It was over a year ago. But he was cursing at me."

Jihoon announced in August his relationship with Deavan had ended

Shortly after Deavan ranted and raved on Instagram, Jihoon confirmed he and Deavan had split.

Jihoon conducted an Instagram Live session on August 22 and said his relationship with Deavan was over and they'd continue living in different countries, In Touch reported.

"So I can't tell everything because the show [is] not finished. They will be happy and I need to be happy. Just, I will live my own life," Jihoon reportedly told his followers, referring to Deavan and her two kids.

"If you lost [a] lover, boy [or] girl. So sad, but you can start again."

Jihoon also described himself as "free" in the Instagram Live video he later deleted.

"We are living our own life, that's our future," Jihoon said.

"So just keep watching. Just keep [supporting] [me] getting [a] better life and please pray for Deavan and Taeyang, [for] their family life."


When fans asked for Jihoon and Deavan's plans in terms of custody of one-year-old Taeyang, Jihoon reportedly explained he'll be able to see his son once a year.

"[Deavan] said every summertime, she [will] go back to Korea with Taeyang. She promised, So we can see Taeyang," Jihoon shared.

Jihoon also asked 90 Day Fiance fans not to attack Deavan and Elicia, as many people apparently turned against Deavan in the wake of her split from Jihoon.

"Not everyone is perfect. Me and Deavan, even Elicia, I'm so sorry. But please stop all criticism. Especially Elicia. They're probably having a harder time than I am," Jihoon reportedly wrote August 21 on Instagram.

"I heard that Elicia and Drascilla [are] under threat of murder. It is 100% wrong. I am begging you guys, I just want peace... I apologize to you guys but thank you so much."

Deavan seemingly moved on from Jihoon quickly and became smitten with another guy

Deavan sparked rumors she's in a new relationship when she posted a photo with a mystery man on her Instagram Stories in August. She cropped his face out of the photo, however, to conceal his identity.

Deavan then deleted the post, according to In Touch, which apparently featured her new boyfriend, Korean-American actor named Christopher "Topher" Park.

Born in Los Angeles, Topher studied theater at the University of California, Riverside and graduated in the 2015 class. He has had small acting roles, mostly in short films ever since.

Just hours after confirming he and Deavan split, Jihoon conducted an Instagram Live session on August 22 and reacted to rumors Deavan is romantically involved with someone new.

"I know Deavan, she has a new boyfriend," Jihoon said, according to In Touch.

"Yeah, she has [a] new boyfriend. I saw that post. So, wow. I can't believe it, oh my God. Wow. Yeah, just. My plan is [to] just focus on myself."


Although Jihoon expressed surprise over Deavan's alleged new relationship, he didn't seem angry the mother of his infant son, Taeyang, has moved on.

"So we are [living] our own life, Deavan [lives her] life. Me, [I] live my life. And I'm not [looking for] a new girl right now. Just, later. Or, just single," Jihoon reportedly said.

"I want my ex and her boyfriend, just [to] be happy. Cause [it's] her choice and [that's the] way she [thinks] [she] will be happy and I'm just [going to] walk to my own way. But we're still Taeyang's parents."

Jihoon added that he planned to continue supporting Taeyang financially with income from his job in South Korea and Cameo videos he's been filming for 90 Day Fiance fans.

"I want [to] be his father. [Deavan says] I can see Taeyang every summer or December," Taeyang reportedly shared with his followers.

However, Jihoon confessed he wasn't in the best place emotionally following his breakup with Deavan.

"I just feel so sick and lonely. Just, I want [to] talk to anything, anyone. It feels like, just [a] dream. Feels like [a] dream right now, this all happened. Just [a] dream," Jihoon said, according to the magazine.

"I can't believe this situation. I hope this situation [is] just [a] dream."

Deavan trashed Jihoon on social media and blamed him for their breakup

Deavan ranted on Instagram in early September that Jihoon had done "the most vile thing possible" that made her want to return to the United States and her estranged husband "wants nothing to do" with Taeyang.

Deavan posted a photo Taeyang along with a lengthy rant against Jihoon -- although she did not identify him by name -- on Instagram that she has since deleted and edited.

"I hate how everyone thinks I'm taking you away from a certain someone. When in reality I tried my best, yet that certain someone hasn't called, texted, or asked about you in weeks," Deavan wrote, suggesting that Jihoon doesn't care about his child.

"And the little money they gave to you they asked for back. People are attacking us for a man who attacked us. But the truth always come out. Seeing someone play victim and pretend and lie ... I'm sick of the lies. I'm sick of pretending because I'm scared of a piece of paper."


Deavan went on to insist she wasn't going to prevent Jihoon from seeing his son.

"Anyways I'm not keeping my child from a certain person. I gave this certain person a chance and was willing to work out something. This certain person has said time and time again they want nothing to do with you which breaks my heart, but yet this certain person will sit back and lie and pretend," Deavan alleged.

"While you and I are currently hiding away because his lies have put us in danger. It's sad how someone can say they will just pretend you don't [exist] and then use you for sympathy again. Why is no one questioning him?"

Deavan continued, "He deleted your memory, he has blocked anyway of getting in contact, he did the most vile thing possible and that's why we are here. Yet we are the ones harassed and stuck hiding away? Makes no sense I don't understand humanity. Anyways I'll leave it at that."

Deavan subsequently edited the post to just read, "My little guitarist #90dayfiance #90dayfiancetheotherway #koreanamerican #mixedbaby."

Afterward, Deavan posted a photo of a man holding Taeyang in his arms on Instagram and captioned it, "What a beautiful little town. Always love exploring. #90dayfiance #90dayfiancetheotherway #mountains #wrightwood."

The mystery man -- who is believed to be Topher again -- and Taeyang were wearing matching red plaid shirts, but Deavan cropped out the man's head as to not reveal his identity.

Amid backlash from many of her followers, Deavan commented on the photo and gave people a piece of her mind.

Although she didn't mention Jihoon by name, Deavan wrote of her ex, "I'm just going to say something... I'm blocked on social media, my number is blocked. I've reached out, sent photos of my son with no replies. I've tried and offered to come to Korea. I'm sick of being blamed when I'm the one trying to co-parent."

"I was told several times to just pretend it never happened because that's what this certain person wants," she continued.

"I'm the one who paid for all the hospital bills, I'm the one who paid for everything in Korea, I'm the one still supporting my son with no help. So why [am] I being attacked? Because I moved on? Because I was tired of being used and not getting any help in return?"


Deavan insisted she's been "doing everything" to keep her family together and preserve their happiness considering Jihoon is in South Korea and she is currently living in Utah.

"I tried and this person has said some vile things about my son and has blocked anyway of me getting in contact to even send photos of my son? But yet you guys attack me?" asked Deavan, who is also mom to five-year-old Drascilla from a previous relationship.

"You don't know what happened behind close doors. You don't know the type of evil that happened. I'm sick of being attacked and blamed and being told I'm [a] horrible person and I took my son away. You guys don't know the half of it. My daughter is healing and I'm healing. Wait till the Tell All, I'm tired of this."

Without giving specific details away, Deavan reiterated how Jihoon had done some "vile" things.

"Something bad happened that can never be forgiven. I tried to co-parent but that's kind of hard to do when the other person has deleted any type of way to get in contact. Also kind of difficult when the only time he contacts you is to call you degrading vile names," Deavan wrote.

"He's told me time and time again he just wants to pretend it didn't happen and has called me, my son, Drascilla vile things. I'm done. I'm sick of the lies. I'm sick of pretending it's okay. I'm done."

Jihoon fired back at Deavan's allegations and says he never neglected Taeyang

Jihoon fired back at Deavan on his Instagram Stories with a heated response to Deavan's shocking claims.

"Let me just say one thing. I always want to see my son. You don't [know] how I feel. I don't want to speak English anymore. Will you stop this childish social media fight?" Jihoon asked.

Not long afterward, Jihoon posted a lengthy message to his followers and 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way fans on his Instagram account.

Along with a photo of Taeyang, Jihoon wrote, "I can't speak all my feelings in English. You see me as a fool. Now I think of him every day. But I can't see him right now, so I spend the day focusing on other things. The reality is terrible. I know all this sh-t."

"Like he's going to have a new father. Do you know how it feels? My heart is always breaking," Jihoon added, referring to the photo Deavan had posted of a man with their son.

"It happened without my knowledge. There's no divorce on paper right now. Do you really know how it feels? Someone's gonna tell me."


Jihoon told Deavan to stop pretending being the victim, adding that he never played victim.

"I'm just a normal person. It's been a while since I've seen Instagram, and it's so stupid. I just want to focus on myself right now. I'd like to forget the pain. I'm tired of speaking English," Jihoon wrote.

Similar to what Deavan had told her followers, Taeyang wrote on Instagram, "Everyone, just watch all the results at tell all. 'Did you forget your son?' Don't ask me that stupid question. I'm human too. I'm not psychopath."

Jihoon added, "And she said she showed him to me in December and every summer. Yeah, we talk to the translator. But I don't think she knows what I really mean. And I don't want to get involved in their lives. So I blocked them all. So extreme, but that's how I organize my mind-set."

Jihoon concluded in his post, "I will never forget my son and love him forever. Every time I try to be comfortable, I keep seeing things. I want to be comfortable now."

Jihoon then moved out of his apartment, presumably the one he had shared with Deavan in South Korea.

It didn't take long for Deavan and Topher to make their romance official in public

Deavan and Topher went Instagram official in mid-September when Topher posted four sexy photos with Deavan on his Instagram.

One of the four steamy pics features Deavan and Topher sitting on a couch together with their foreheads touching, and the second picture shows Topher kissing Deavan while sitting on her lap shirtless.

Topher didn't provide a caption for the slideshow of pics, but he was clearly proud to have Deavan in his life.

Based on photos Deavan previously shared of her living room, it appears the photos of the couple were taken in Deavan's new apartment, In Touch reported.

Deavan subsequently gushed about how she's smitten with Topher by posting a video of the couple on her own Instagram account.

The video, set to the song "Him & I" by G-Eazy and Halsey, featured a still photo of Deavan and Topher cuddled up next to each other on a couch with their foreheads touching.


The lyrics to "Him & I" were displayed on the video as it plays, which suggested the words represent how Deavan feels about her new man.

"In the end, it's him and I. He's out his head, I'm out my mind. We got that love, the crazy kind. I am his, and he is mine. In the end, it's him and I. Him and I," Deavan wrote.

Deavan says she filed for divorce from Jihoon but he's dragging out the process

In late September, Deavan confirmed she has filed for divorce from Jihoon, who she claims is dragging out the process.

"Woke up to a lot of hate mail. I want to say this once: I've tried to get the divorce finished. Jihoon has not yet signed," Deavan wrote on her Instagram Stories at the time.

"I've been trying, so everyone leave me alone about that situation."

Deavan has made her breakup a legal matter because she alleges Jihoon had abused her daughter Drascilla when they were together in South Korea -- which Jihoon totally denied.

"Hello all, To everyone who has been witnessing the past few months of [Deavan] and mines relationship.. I have not been the one to put this out on social media because I believe strongly to not cause drama online. However, now with the accusations and lies swarming around, I must defend myself so that my son sees the truth one day," Jihoon posted as part of a long rant on his Instagram Stories, which went on for 13 posts.

As part of Jihoon telling his side of the story, he wholeheartedly denied ever abusing Drascilla, whom Deavan has previously described as "a wild child."

"Deavan wanted her daughter to be my daughter, Taeyang is my son. She said this to me. She wanted me to be a father to Drascilla. I accepted and when I tried to show Drascilla right from wrong, or even disciplining, both [Deavan] and Drascilla rejected the growing pains," Jihoon wrote.

"Deavan did not accept my type of discipline or helping her child become an amazing young girl. Here is a prime example: Drascilla was enrolled into an English academy in Korea. I would get calls from the director that Drascilla was hitting, spitting, screaming, and pulling other kids' hair and the teachers."

Jihoon claimed that, given he'd been asked to fulfill a parental role with Drascilla, he took it upon himself to try to address her behavior at the school she was attending.

"So I would come down to the school and try to talk to her the best I could. She wouldn't listen. She would continue with the same tactics, even after I would show her what she was doing was wrong," Jihoon explained.

"When she was pulling other children's hair and making them cry, I tugged on her hair, and asked, 'If I pull on your hair, does it hurt? You don't want to hurt your friends or the other kids.' And that still didn't work in her understanding."


Deavan apparently didn't agree with Jihoon's parenting techniques and it caused some major issues between the former couple.

"How could I be a father to a child who she had called me dad in Korean, but when I tried to be a father, Deavan said I was in the wrong and hurt her child? (I have a written statement from the school in regards to these incidents of Drascilla being this way)," Jihoon continued.

Jihoon insists Deavan lied about him supposedly abusing Drascilla

Jihoon said Deavan has lied when she's claimed he never helped her out with Drascilla and Taeyang.

On their breakup, Jihoon said about a month after Deavan left him and returned to the United States, she accused him of abusing Drascilla and "demanded a breakup."

One month after that, Jihoon said, "Another man was imitating Taeyang's father. Deavan made claims saying that Drascilla told Deavan that I had been abusing Drascilla. Drascilla told the truth that there was nothing to be said later on.. and Deavan was still going for the separation without confirming it with me."

"She did it through social media after she found her new boyfriend," added Jihoon.

In regards to rumored allegations Jihoon's parents had also abused Drascilla, Jihoon also wrote, "It's a lie. There are not circumstances, evidence or reasons for that. It's social media and the world making up falsehoods."

Jihoon went on to slam Deavan by saying, "But is it okay to walk around outside without wearing masks on children in America? Is it okay to force children on rides for their couple videos when they cry and don't like it, but continue to do it anyways? This is what is shown on their YouTube channel."

Jihoon later added, "She's lying about my parents abusing her. Drascilla, she yelled at my mother. Because they couldn't communicate at all. My father spoke a little English. It's fine. So my mother got angry and yelled at her. That's abusive?"

Jihoon also insisted it was "a lie" he didn't have a job and was too lazy to work and make money for his family.

"At first, I was learning to work as a tile maker. I was learning to do professional work and had a plan to get a job. But I had to quit Tile Academy because I was asked to pay for it right away," Jihoon wrote.

"I had no choice but to find a job that paid me right away. I had a car accident while working, but I limped and endured it. If I didn't show money right away, she said she would walk away from me and take the children. So instead of pursuing my tile career, I had to settle for any job I could find to hopefully keep her in Korea."

Although Jihoon and Deavan both previously said they'd share their stories on the Tell-All for 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way's second season, Deavan suddenly the former couple will not be appearing on the Tell-All this fall after all.

"We will not be attending the Tell All," Deavan reportedly wrote on her Instagram Stories of the cast reunion.

"TLC is aware of what happened to my daughter and has been for months their reason being 'we don't want to have to put your family through that and be around him' so I'll leave it at that."


Deavan, however, reportedly insisted her side of the story -- the "truth," she says -- will be released in the near future.

"I am a little upset I will not be able to tell my side due to the fact they knew what was happening and I sat here pretending it was okay online for them so I wouldn't be breaking my contracts. So the truth of my story will come out in time," Deavan reportedly noted.

Deavan also recently accused Jihoon of putting her and her family in danger by giving out her address and forcing her to move around with the kids.

Deavan seems happy in her new relationship and isn't looking back

Deavan posted a shirtless photo of Topher on October 22 in which he was showing off his six pack.

Deavan captioned the image, "Can we just talk about how handsome this man is @hyu.nw Created an OF link in bio to subscribe. #topherpark #90dayfiancetheotherway #of #blackandwhitephotography."

And in late October, Deavan posted a photo of Topher with Taeyang on his shoulders in a corn field.

"Feeling blessed @hyu.nw #fall #autumn #autumnvibes #pumpkinpatch #cornmaze #90dayfiance #90daystheotherway," Deavan captioned the picture.

And in late October, Deavan, Topher and Deavan's two kids went for a walk on a beach in California during a "wonderful weekend" trip. Deavan and Topher also went as people from the Purge movie for Halloween.

Deavan revealed when she first met Topher -- and it's a shocker!

Deavan Clegg revealed in mid-November she actually met her new boyfriend Topher when she was still in a relationship with Jihoon!

"The way I met Topher was I was flying to [South] Korea the first time back in November, it was right before I was filming. It would be the first time I met Jihoon's family," Deavan shared in a lengthy YouTube interview with 90 Day Fiance Instagrammer John Yates.

"We were in LAX and we were transferring flights and we just happened to be sitting next to each other. We talked and on the plane... we connected."

Deavan continued, "When we got off the plane, it was just like, 'K, bye. Great talk.' You know? He was going to go see his ex-girlfriend and I was seeing my ex. So nothing there, we didn't swap numbers. None of that -- nothing like that."


Deavan said she and Topher are coincidentally from the same town in California.

"A lot of people don't know that I lived in a different place before Utah. So we are both from the same hometown and we both had a mutual friend from that same hometown, and they were just scrolling through their Instagram and I popped up," Deavan said.

Topher apparently recognized Deavan on social media right away and decided to reach out to her.

"That was by the time I actually came back to America six months ago," Deavan said, before confirming she only spent eight months in South Korea with a few trips to the United States in between.

"And [Topher] just followed me and he's like, 'Oh my gosh, it's so crazy, I can't believe you used to be from this city.' And then we just started talking and having communication that way."

Deavan said she flew to Los Angeles, CA for her first date with Topher -- and their first date turned into a few days together.

Deavan recalled, "We spent the weekend together, a quarantine-date session" amid the coronavirus pandemic.

Once Deavan returned home to Utah, Topher visited Deavan three weeks later.

"We've just kind of been together all the time after that," Deavan shared.

"He's a great person. He's really kind. I don't want people to think anything weird; it was just a coincidence and it's really funny because we found out he was in New York as the same time as me, which was really crazy."

Deavan added, "And we didn't even know this, that we're from the same hometown, that we were on these flights at the same time, and we just think it's super crazy how the world works. We just like to think that the world was trying to give us a chance to meet but we just kept, like, walking past each other."

Deavan also said Topher is "so good" with Drascilla and Taeyang.

"I am shocked. He's never had experience with kids, [but] he's a very calm human being. [He's like] my father Steve, they have very similar personalities when it comes to just being calm, cool, collected," Deavan gushed.

"When he met the kids, he instantly just fell in love with Taeyang and fell in love with Drascilla. They're always together and Taeyang is super attached to him. He'll never leave him."

Deavan said Topher asks her questions about parenting all the time and he's just "super great."

"He never gets angry; he's always just a happy and calm human," Deavan noted. "It's just so nice to have him here because he keeps us all at ease and helps us with all the tough stuff going on."

Deavan and Topher have taken the next step in their relationship

Deavan revealed Topher actually moved in with her after a short period of time of them getting to know each other.

"We do live with each other. It just kind of happened with like quarantine. It just felt right with just everything and we really thought about it, really talked about it," Deavan recalled in her interview with John Yates.

"To some people, it may be really fast and we both can understand that. We've thought about everything and this is how we feel we should give it a shot instead of waiting two years and then finding out, 'Oh, it's not gonna work,' if that makes sense."


Deavan, however, said she totally understands the perspective that she rushed into a new relationship after her failed marriage to Jihoon.

"I can see that point of view completely, but... Jihoon and I both had been mentally out of love for a very long time, so that's also what helped us both move forward with future relationships because when you're both mentally were over each other for a long time, that's also a factor," Deavan said.

Deavan claimed Jihoon has blocked her and her entire family on every account and they'll handle things in court at a later date but she's not withholding Taeyang from Jihoon.

But Deavan explained she's not even thinking about an engagement to Topher right now because she's "just trying to get divorced first."

Deavan claims she faked scenes and Jihoon relationship was practically over when Season 2 began filming

Deavan Clegg claims she and Jihoon faked many scenes of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way and the couple was practically already broken up by the time they started filming the spinoff's second season.

"The things that happened, I hold myself accountable 100 percent. I was supposed to protect my family, and I went to Korea when I shouldn't have," Deavan revealed to John Yates in her mid-November interview.

"And I'm very hard on myself and very critical of myself for that. There are certain things, like, unfortunately I feel like me and my ex were done before we even started filming Season 2."

Deavan said she and Jihoon had pretty much checked out of their relationship after Deavan's first attempt to live in South Korea was a disaster and she moved back home to the United States.

"I feel like we both internally just carried it out for the show," Deavan revealed.

"I can't speak on him, but I feel like we both mentally felt that way. And I wish instead of pushing through for a show, we were just both honest in our hearts and didn't cause all of this drama to happen."

Deavan insisted she holds herself accountable for that and she "never should have went to Korea."

"I should've stuck with the way I felt instead of filming the show because I needed the money. I should have just stayed home," Deavan said.

One of Deavan's major issues with the 90 Day Fiance franchise is she feels her family wasn't accurately portrayed on the series.

"The show is a storyline. They told me the storyline from the beginning. My interviews, they told me word for word what to say in my interviews. There was a storyline and they wanted to play up the storyline," Deavan shared.


Deavan also doesn't appreciate the edit Drascilla has received on the show given fans have criticized Deavan for being a bad mother and Drascilla for being out of control.

"[Producers said], 'It would be so funny if [Drascilla] is just all over the place... but people don't know that. People don't know the behind-the-scenes. And that's why people who watch my YouTube videos are like, 'Oh my gosh, she's so different and she's so nice,'" Deavan explained.

Deavan reiterated how 90 Day Fiance is just "a show" and "[people] don't know the truth."

"They don't know how we are day to day. [Drascilla] is such a good girl... well-behaved and kind," Deavan claimed.

"What you see on the show is what happens when a girl is given a bunch of snacks and candy from producers who are constantly giving her sugar... or telling her to run around and do this stuff because 'it would be fun.'"

Deavan also said four other cast members -- two couples -- have reached out to her complaining about how their storylines on television are "not one hundred percent true."

Deavan insisted there's a huge difference between reality TV and "actual real life."

"People do not see how toxic this [reality television] industry is," Deavan said in her interview, adding that "some scenes [of the show] were heavily, heavily produced."

Deavan then revealed a shocking detail about her storyline with Jihoon.

"One of our most famous scenes is not real. It was scripted, and that's crazy," Deavan disclosed.

Deavan then pointed to her engagement ring on her left hand and said, "I already had it, so, yeah."

Deavan therefore suggested the scene of Jihoon proposing marriage to Deavan during a trip to Las Vegas with his parents was completely fake.


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About The Author: Elizabeth Kwiatkowski
Elizabeth Kwiatkowski is Associate Editor of Reality TV World and has been covering the reality TV genre for more than a decade.