90 Day Fiance: The Other Way star Melyza Zeta has yet to reveal to Tim Clarkson on Season 2 she had a sexual relationship with another man when they were broken up, so did the couple split up or are they still together and trying to make it work?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report includes spoilers that reveal if Tim and Melyza are still together or if the 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way couple has broken up.]
Tim, a 34-year-old from Dallas, TX, and Melyza, a 29-year-old from Colombia, met at bar when Tim was enrolled in school at the University of Ohio.RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOW: WHO IS STILL TOGETHER? WHO HAS SPLIT? WHERE ARE THEY KNOW? (PHOTOS)
Tim thought Melyza was "absolutely gorgeous," and she liked that he had "no game" and came across goofy and funny.
Melyza was working as an au pair in Iowa and learning English when they met, and they apparently fell for each other quickly. However, Melyza had to move to Boston a week after they met in order to take another job as an au pair, forcing the pair to endure a long-distance relationship.
The distance then became farther when Melyza returned to Colombia to "finish her studies," according to Tim.
Tim considered Melyza to be the love of his life, so he decided to move to Colombia to address some of the "insanely tough things" the couple had been going through.
"The main reason I decided to move there is -- I actually cheated on her," Tim admitted to his friends one week before his scheduled flight to Colombia.
When Melyza traveled to the United States before on a Tourist Visa for about six months, Tim said the plan was to propose marriage to her but he ended up cheating on her a month before her arrival.
Tim explained in a confessional, "Last year, the distance between me and Melyza at that time was very difficult. I felt lonely. And the girl that I ultimately cheated with was a co-worker. It just started off as casual conversation and it got to a point to where we did have a full-out, intimate sexual encounter."
Tim recalled that Melyza "had her suspicions" when she came to visit him in the United States.
"She noticed with my social media that something was up and prompted her to start digging, and she eventually confronted me about it," Tim told the cameras. "After that, we started arguing all the time."
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RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWTim set out to prove to Melyza that he was committed to her and only wanted her in his future.
"There's no way I expect her to trust me or believe me again, but everything I'm doing right now, I'm genuine about. And I genuinely want to do all of the right things to redeem myself and to just deserve her again," Tim cried to the cameras.
Tim wanted to give Melyza the world, but he also hoped she would meet his needs and express her love to him as well. He said it had been a while since Melyza last professed her love for him.
As for Melyza, she said she had envisioned herself marrying and having children with Tim prior to the cheating incident.
"I found out that he cheated on me. I never in a million years thought that he's the kind of person who cheats -- ever," Melyza explained in a confessional.
"The pain I was going through completely consumed me. I was angry and upset, but I love him and have been with him for years now, so he kind of deserves a second chance."
But Tim also had to win back the support and approval of Melyza's parents. While Melyza had yet to inform her father of Tim's betrayal, Melyza's mother was furious at Tim and lost all trust in him.
"It makes me upset obviously, because I doubt that he can win my mom back. But I do think it's worth a try, so I am still hoping for the best," Melyza said.
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Tim noted it would be like "a death sentence" for Melyza's parents to stop liking him or disapprove of him pursuing Melyza.
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While the pair had a sweet and happy reunion in Colombia, it didn't take long for Melyza to bring up the past.
Tim told Melyza he didn't come clean to her after cheating because Melyza would've gotten extremely angry with him and maybe would have left him entirely.
"You keep telling me to be open and honest with you, but then every time I am, you just break up with me. So that prevented me from being open and honest with you," Tim said.
Melyza complained Tim was being "selfish" and trying to blame his mistakes on her. Melyza didn't appreciate Tim being manipulative by making her feel bad about wanting to know the truth.
"This conversation puts doubts in my mind. It's been over a year, and I thought we discussed this at nauseam. The fact that she still feels like she needs to know the same things, I don't know if we're ever going to get past that," Tim told the cameras.
To make matters worse, Tim spoke to Melyza's father man-to-man and confessed he had been with another woman -- and Melyza's father seemed horrified.
"Badly done man. We opened the doors of our home so that you could live with us. And well, for this to happen? That's no good in my book," Melyza's father responded, adding that he felt Tim was playing with his heart and playing with his daughter's heart.
Melyza's dad said he had looked at Tim like a son and "all that image has changed."
Melyza told her dad that she wanted to work on her relationship, but her father said, "The healthiest thing would be to break up... Love is based on trust. When trust is lost, as much love there is, nothing else is left."
Tim then headed to an employment agency to show Melyza he was serious about starting a life with her in a new country. He also thought being able to provide for Melyza would give him a confidence boost.
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Tim was told at an employment agency he needed a worker's permit in order to get a job or a visa or a residency card. He discovered the easiest way to get a job would be to marry a woman who could obtain all the legal paperwork for him.
"Hearing her say getting married is the easier option is very unfortunate because I don't think that's on Melyza's radar or mine right now. It's one more hurdle to cross that I wasn't anticipating," Tim admitted.
Tim told Melyza that if they got married, it would be a much quicker process for him to work legally in Brazil. But Melyza said tying the knot was not on her mind "at all" at this point because Tim still had to regain her trust.
Tim was happy he still had a job in the United States because if he needed to make money and pay bills, he could always return and work. Melyza, however, was angry and hurt that Tim had never told her that he kept his job in America.
Melyza said it seemed like Tim was scared their relationship wasn't going to work out and so he had a backup plan, and Tim acknowledged he was in fact scared and needed something to fall back on if he ended up returning to the United States.
"I didn't ask you to come here and sacrifice everything," Melyza insisted.
"I guess I feel a little bit sometimes that you might not be as committed to this as I am. I mean, I understand why you wouldn't be," Tim said.
Melyza told Tim that it insulted and offended her that he didn't think she was committed to him because she was essentially going against her family to be with him. Melyza was angry and frustrated to the point where she asked Tim not to look at her.
Melyza didn't appreciate Tim minimizing the sacrifices she had made, and he didn't think she appreciated how he had moved to Colombia and left his whole life behind for her.
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The pair seemed to be on separate pages, and Melyza noted living with Tim was "really bumpy." Melyza believed Tim was still keeping things from her and they needed to work through their trust issues.
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"I haven't been completely honest with him," Melyza told the guys. "He doesn't know that I started relationships with other people. So, like, I'm saying it wasn't serious... At that time, we weren't together."
Melyza apparently dated a guy for a little bit while she and Tim were broken up. A friend had introduced Melyza to this man, and she said the romance "just happened" when she wasn't looking for anything and the relationship was "mostly sexual."
"We never discussed if we should be seeing other people or not [or] if we stopped being exclusive or not," Melyza said in a confessional.
Miguel admitted he'd rather not know if a woman did this to him, and while Melyza acknowledged it was going to be an uncomfortable conversation to have with Tim, she wanted to be open and honest with her boyfriend.
"I think I have a right to live my own life and make my own decisions, but I don't like being lied to by people I care really about," Melyza told the cameras.
"So I don't want to keep things from him anymore now that we are trying to restore our relationship. I realize I need to be honest with him as well and come clean."
Have Tim and Melyza split or is the 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way couple still together?
There is no sign of Melyza on Tim's Instagram account except for a post on February 25, when he shared a photo of the pair standing in front of an "I [Heart] Medellin" sculpture, as well as very old photos dating back to 2017.Tim hinted he still had some type of relationship with Melyza back in late June when he shared how they were bracing themselves for their TLC debut on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way's second season.
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"Tonight is the night. Our first episode," Tim captioned a video. "Melyza and I are feeling nervous and excited that tonight is our first episode that we will FINALLY appear @melyzazeta."
When a fan wrote she was "rooting" for Tim and Melyza to be together, another one of Tim's followers asked, "Why?"
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However, Tim has since deleted the post.
Meanwhile, Melyza hasn't posted a photo with Tim on her Instagram account since July 2017.
"You're committed, incredibly annoying, THE cutest, and definitely my favorite person in the world," she wrote alongside the photo at the time.
On July 26, Melyza threw some shade at Tim when she shared a video of Tim recalling his affair. However, that post has since been deleted.
"My eyes are light-sensitive, [which] makes me blink a lot. But, no worries, I can still see through the BS," Melyza wrote in the now-deleted caption.
Tim told the Dallas Observer in June that he wasn't looking for a serious relationship when he met Melyza.
"When I laid eyes on her for the first time it was obviously someone who was very gorgeous, but she also had this kind of aura to her. I knew I had to try," Tim noted, although Melyza lived in Colombia.
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"The Catch-22 is that you might be pursuing something for longer than you would have otherwise because you've invested more in the long-distance relationship."
When choosing to sign up for the 90 Day Fiance spinoff, Tim admitted, "We didn't know how it would affect our relationship. We knew the audience would be able to see us for better or for worse... I never saw myself as being on TV, especially reality TV, because of the negative stereotypes."
Tim also teased during his interview fans would see a lot of "growth" come from Tim and Melyza separately as well as a couple.
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While Tim didn't disclose his relationship status with Melyza at the time, he told the Dallas Observer that appearing on 90 Day Fiance actually benefited his relationship in surprising ways.
"It really kind of made us analyze and examine our relationship in a much more positive fashion than I thought we would have been able to do," Tim said.
He added, "One of the things I do like about this is that there are people out there who can find similarities to my story or her [Melyza's] story... I was 100% myself."
Tim concluded his interview by saying the couple's story is "all true" and "valid."
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