The Bachelorette bachelor Jacob Rapini slammed Gabby Windey in the process of dumping her for Rachel Recchia, and Becca Kufrin and Michelle Young were apparently appalled by his behavior.

During the latest episode of The Bachelorette's nineteenth season, Gabby was shown battling insecurities in which she questioned if she was "too much" and also not "enough" for the guys. She didn't feel like she even deserved to be The Bachelorette star alongside Rachel.


Three men -- Tyler Norris, Hayden Markowitz, and Jacob -- then proceeded to make matters worse by breaking up with Gabby during a group-date afterparty.

While Tyler handled himself like a respectful gentleman, Hayden called Gabby "rough around the edges" and said his morals and values aligned more with Rachel. (Hayden addressed criticism of his breakup speech on Monday night).

During a recent episode of the "Bachelor Happy Hour" podcast, Becca, who starred on The Bachelorette's fourteenth season, said Hayden "didn't need to diss her" and she definitely "felt for Gabby in that situation."

Michelle, who starred on The Bachelorette's eighteenth season last year, agreed Hayden had clearly been comparing the two women and he could've gone about the breakup conversation in a much better way.

"It was showcased in a way where [he made Gabby feel] of lesser value," Michelle said, "and that was my issue."

Becca said she believes Hayden "won't stick around very long" and hopes he's gone soon, but she revealed the conversation that "really irked" her, even more so than Hayden, was when Jacob sat down with Gabby to inform her that he only wanted to pursue Rachel going forward.

"He didn't even say much, but ever since Night 1 when Jacob was reading that f-cking list [of things he wants in a woman], I was like, 'Jacob, just stop. This is not your season,'" Becca complained on her podcast.

"When Jacob goes, 'I'm more into Rachel and if it was just you here, I'd probably send myself home -- but you're smoking hot,' go kick dirt, Jacob! Like that is going to make Gabby feel better?!"


Michelle chimed in, "Who taught you that?! That's my thing, like, where did you learn that?"

Becca continued, "It's like, 'Okay, cool, thanks.' That's not going to make any woman in that situation feel remotely better. Just stop talking while you're ahead."

Michelle also found the interaction upsetting and disappointing.

"It just makes no sense... Relationships and even this show, it's romanticized, right? And those are things that can be part of relationships, it can be this magical thing. But this is the man that rode in on a horse [as a] knight, and that's what you end with?!" Michelle asked with a laugh.

"If we're going off The Notebook and all of these romantic novels, that's not a part of it -- ever. Period... [Some men] feel like [being called hot] is what we want to hear, and that's not what we want to hear."

Becca echoed that sentiment and said, "No one wants to hear that! Comment on her personality or how charismatic she is, or anything other than, 'You look great on the outside!'"

When Jacob broke up with Gabby, he said, "I think we can joke around and be funny and cause a ton of laughter. But I don't know if maybe we've had the connection that I think I wanted to have with you from the get go. Even if, say, you were the only person here, I don't think I could have the heart to continue."

Gabby broke down into tears after three rejections in a row, saying that the men clearly didn't want to be with her just because she's "so different" from previous Bachelorettes.

"When it comes down to it, I want to be rough around the edges because I know who I am on the inside and I'm f-cking proud of it," Gabby cried.


The group date ended with Rachel giving a rose to Aven Jones, but Gabby announced how she had a difficult week and couldn't hand out a rose as a result.

Rachel, shocked by the news, immediately ran to Gabby in order to be a shoulder to lean on.

Rachel said she'd be willing to address the situation and scold the men -- who apparently thought they had the power and control considering there were two Bachelorettes -- but Gabby just wanted to give the bachelors "time to reflect on their sh-t."

"I'm here to find a lifelong partner. I'm not here to teach dudes how to act," Gabby said.

At the end of the week, Gabby and Rachel decided to hand out individual roses at the third Rose Ceremony of the season to ensure they'd each have their own group of men going forward.

Rachel and Gabby wanted the assurance in knowing that the men they were dating only had eyes for them.

The decision temporarily backfired, however, because Rachel felt rejected at the Rose Ceremony when three suitors turned down a rose: Alec Garza, James "Meatball" Clarke, and Termayne Harper.

Rachel thought the repeated rejection made her look "stupid" to the men who had already accepted roses from her, and she hated how the humiliation was in front of everyone.

"This was supposed to be us taking the power back. We literally handed it right back to all of them by doing this," Rachel complained to Gabby before they finished the ceremony.

Alec, Meatball and Termayne were able to step back at the Rose Ceremony and wait for a potential rose from Gabby, but it turned out all of them were eliminated, right along with Jacob. The women finally felt in control again.

The episode's closing credits later showed that Meatball asked Rachel for a second chance because he didn't think they had much time to get to know each other. Fans will have to wait until the next episode to hear Rachel's answer on Monday, August 1 at 8PM ET/PT on ABC.

Gabby now has nine bachelors left in the running for her heart while Rachel has eight men on The Bachelorette.


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Elizabeth Kwiatkowski is Associate Editor of Reality TV World and has been covering the reality TV genre for more than a decade.