'Married at First Sight' star Ryan: It's going to take a Hail Mary for Brett and I to work out at this point
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 10/26/2021
Married at First Sight star Ryan Ignasiak has admitted it's going to take a Hail Mary for his marriage to Brett to work out at this point in the extreme experiment.
With less than two weeks to go until "Decision Day," the five Season 13 Married at First Sight couples traveled to a ranch retreat at Chappell Hill Lavender Farm in the country between Austin and Houston, TX.
Ryan had been slowly distancing himself from Brett in their 40-plus days of marriage, and while he explained to cameras a spark was missing and he didn't feel an attraction or butterflies for his wife, Brett was still waiting to hear the truth from Ryan about how he really felt about her and their relationship.
During Wednesday night's episode ofMarried at First Sight: Unfiltered, host Jamie Otis -- who starred on Season 1 of Married at First Sight and is still married to her match, Doug Hehner -- asked Ryan, "Do you feel like you and Brett are on different pages of your marriage?"
"I mean, absolutely," Ryan replied. "I think it's very clear to anybody seeing us from the outside looking in."
"She was definitely way more into it leading up to this point, and I came on late feeling like, 'Okay, we still have a chance.'"
Ryan was prepared to put more effort into his marriage once the retreat came around, but he confessed, "It's going to take a Hail Mary for it to work at this point."
"I thought we were both committed to doing the things, and I, yeah, I didn't handle it well at all, honestly," he acknowledged.
Ryan also watched back a Season 13 clip of Brett, Johnny Lam, Bao Huong Hoang, and himself discussing their sleeping arrangement at the fancy barn, which had six bedrooms.
"What are you comfortable with?" Johnny asks in clip, considering he wasn't looking forward to sharing a room with his wife Bao.
"I mean, we can stay in the same room, if Brett's okay with it," Ryan suggests, although he and Brett had been sleeping in different beds for probably weeks leading up to that point.
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"I wasn't thinking that," Brett interjects, "to stay in the same room."
Brett proceeds to tell the cameras Ryan can't just drop a bomb on her like that out of nowhere.
"I don't know what, 'I don't have problem sleeping in a room with Brett,' means. Do you want to have a sleepover? You want to sleep on the floor? I could sleep in the bed and we can chit-chat? We could've done that, but you have to say it," Brett complains.
Jamie asked Ryan -- who had clearly not been fully open with Brett about his feelings -- what was going through his mind when Brett said she didn't want to share a bedroom with him.
"I had zero intentions of her being okay with sharing a bed. That was never what I meant, and again, I should have verbalized that," Ryan explained.
"I truly thought that her and I were in a better place, even on a friend-level, as Johnny and Bao were."
Ryan elaborated, "So I wanted to take the burden off of [Johnny and Bao] having to be put in that situation. I thought we were adult enough to share a room."
Married at First Sight's latest episode showed Johnny and Ryan agreeing to share a bedroom, but then the men played one round of "Rock, Paper, Scissors" and it appeared Ryan lost and ended up sleeping on the couch as a result.
"But yeah, I didn't think that I would be sleeping on the couch for the entirety of the weekend," Ryan said with an uncomfortable laugh.
Married at First Sightexpert, Dr. Viviana Coles, joined Ryan on Unfiltered and offered her perspective on spouses sleeping in different bedrooms.
"If it's for the sake of snoring issues and you need to be able to sleep well, I'm all for it," Viviana shared.
"But if it is just because you don't want to have the awkward 'together time' at the end of the night, well, then I feel like it's moving away from each other and it's a sign of much more. It's not just about sleeping in separate bedrooms."
Before the retreat, Brett had noticed a sudden or abrupt change in Ryan's attitude and demeanor, and his sister had informed Brett that maybe a woman from his past had resurfaced and so Ryan was distracted -- a claim he later denied.
Brett said she had also heard from someone else that Ryan just wanted to be friends with her.
Ryan told Brett the news shouldn't have come as a surprise to her due to the fact his actions spoke volumes, but Brett needed verbal communication in order to feel like they understood each other.
Brett felt she had shown Ryan her true self, and she complained to her girlfriends on the show that Ryan just needed to "take it or leave it." Brett even suggested that she felt devalued and disrespected by Ryan when venting her frustrations to the fellow Married at First Sight brides.
Brett told Ryan that he had broken her, but the couple agreed to continue working on things during their final relaxing day of the retreat -- and they appeared to head back to Houston optimistic and on the same page.
In addition to Brett, Ryan, Johnny, and Bao, Married at First Sight's thirteenth season, which currently airs on Wednesday nights at 8PM ET/PT on Lifetime, also stars Myrla Feria and Gil Cuero, Michaela Clark and Zack Freeman, and Rachel Gordillo and Jose San Miguel.