'The Bachelor' bachelorette Sarah Herron: My Sean Lowe dumping was "same story, different dude"
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 02/11/2013
The Bachelor bachelorette Sarah Herron was one of three women sent packing by Bachelor Sean Lowe during Tuesday night's broadcast of the reality dating series' seventeenth season on ABC.
Sarah, a 26-year-old advertising executive from Los Angeles, CA, was eliminated immediately following the group date in Alberta, Canada because Sean didn't want to make her go through the stress of a Rose Ceremony when he knew beforehand he wanted to send her home and she wasn't his future wife.
Afterwards, Sean chose to cut Selma Alameri, a 29-year-old real estate developer from San Diego, CA, and Daniella McBride, a 24-year-old commercial casting associate from San Francisco, CA, from the competition during the episode's Rose Ceremony.
During a Thursday conference call with reporters, Sarah talked to Reality TV World about her The Bachelor elimination and the girls still in the running for Sean's heart. To read what she had to say to us specifically, click here. Below are some additional highlights from the call. Click here for more.
If the opportunity came up for you to be the nextThe Bachelorette star, would that be something you'd be interested in?
Sarah Herron: I think I would have to seriously consider it because, as I mentioned earlier, the experience was probably one of the most life-changing experiences of my life. And like I said, I learned more about myself than I ever could've imagined. I became more vulnerable than I've ever been with anybody in my life.
I mean, you have to consider that up until this show, I never walked around talking about my arm to anybody -- anybody. And now, I can openly and freely talk about it and my co-workers suddenly feel more comfortable and confident talking to me about questions they might've always had but never felt comfortable asking me.
And I feel this has been an outlet for just like a lot of self-discovery. However, I don't want to just sit down and talk about my arm forever, and I don't know if I could do a whole other season of that.
But at the same time, I still want to find love. Looking at the big picture here, I'm still single and I do want a boyfriend and I want a husband and I want to find that special guy. So, you know, there's still a lot to consider.
With Tierra LiCausi being the center of attention so much, how difficult is it to kind of ignore her and not get distracted by the antics and focus on Sean? And is that something you all discussed in the house, to kind of stay focused and not let it make you girls look like the drama queens instead of Tierra?
Sarah Herron: Absolutely. We all discussed numerous times how, not just pertaining to Tierra, but just each other. We didn't want to get involved in anyone's issues in the house, and we tried very hard to stay focused on our individual connections with Sean and keep the house side of it separate.
But at the same time, I was Tierra's roommate when we were traveling, and I was there with her through a lot of the struggles and her meltdowns and I saw a different side to Tierra. So, I didn't want to ignore her, because in a sense, she was my friend and we had befriended each other.
But we just had to stay out of it. I never once talked to Sean about Tierra. That's not what I was there to do. I don't think any of us really ever wanted to talk to Sean about Tierra, so we just kind of ignored it. We tried our hardest.
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Even though Sean hasn't seen "the other side" of Tierra yet, what he does see is a girl who's kind of insecure and needy. So what do you think it is that Sean actually sees in Tierra and wants to keep her around for? Do you think he's just attracted to her physically or is it something else?
Sarah Herron: I am not sure. Honestly, I am just as much in the dark as you are. She's sweet and she can be beautiful, but I don't know. I don't know what it is, and what I saw in the promo for next week's episode is that he says he's crazy about her. And that just blows my mind. I don't know what it is. I don't know what their connection is. I wish I could tell you. (Laughs) I wish I had some insight into it. I don't know.
When your breakup with Sean was happening, you told the cameras you were kind of tired of the same excuse -- that the situation happened to be the same story, different guy type of thing.
What about your split with Sean exactly was common to other breakups you've experienced? And looking back on it now, would you say that wasn't Sean's intentions or it wasn't the same story, different guy?
Sarah Herron: No, I think it was same story, different dude.
Honestly, it saddened me to think that I've been through that situation so many times, but I can't tell you how many times I will begin to date a guy and start going down this road and get the same story, you know, several weeks into it -- "You're great, you're funny, you're sweet, you have the biggest heart, but there isn't a connection," or, "I'm not right for you and you deserve someone so much better and you deserve someone who's going to treat you amazing."
I've been told that more times than I can count, and I think a lot of girls can relate to that. We've probably all been told that at some point, but I feel like for whatever reason, it just happens all the time to me! And so, I knew where Sean was going. And the second he sat me down, I knew what he was going to do.
I knew he was sending me home, and it's just like I said on the show, I knew what he was going to say but I wanted to hear his explanation, because it was just like deja vu. I've been there. I've sat in that very same place so many times and I always get the same answer. And so, I just wanted to hear it again I guess, I don't know. I don't know why. I don't know why I keep getting told that.
Do you think with other guys you've dated that was sort of their fall-back line but maybe with Sean he really truly meant it and just wasn't feeling a connection since he's so driven to find his wife? Do you think that Sean really did respect you and therefore wanted to let you down softly and as quickly as he could so he wouldn't lead you on and hurt you?
Sarah Herron: Yeah, I mean, I don't think it's like a fall-back line for a lot of guys. I think they do usually feel that way and they do have respect for me, and I think Sean did. Let me tell you, there are no hard feelings. I am not mad at Sean, and like I said, I respect that he was honest with me and he didn't string me along. And he's only human, and I know the objective of why he was on the show.
We all know he's there looking for his wife, and so, I can't blame him for not feeling it with me. I think it's not fair to say like, "Oh he's just giving me the same line that every guy does," because I know that's what I said, but he deserves more credit than that.
He's sweet and honest about it, but I'm just saying from a personal standpoint, I am confused why I always get told that. Like, I'm confused why none of the guys in my life have ever felt like, "I am that guy who deserves you and I'm going to be the guy that treats you amazing."
That's what confuses me and makes me sad. So, there's no hard feelings toward Sean and I don't blame him like I said, but I'm just confused from my perspective who this guy's going to be and when he's going to come along.
Above are some additional highlights from Sarah's Thursday conference call with reporters. To read what she had to say to Reality TV World, click here. For more, click here.