Shannon Beader and husband David Beador separate after 17 years of marriage, 'The Real Housewives' star "crushed"
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 10/27/2017
Shannon Beador and her husband David Beador have called it quits on their marriage of 17 years.
The Real Housewives of Orange County star and David split a little over one month ago, but Shannon just announced the news Friday.
"After much thought and careful consideration, David and I have made the difficult decision to separate," Shannon, 53, told Bravo's The Daily Dish in a statement.
"We remain partners in parenthood and are committed to raising our three daughters. This is not the future we envisioned, and we kindly ask for privacy, especially for our children, during this transitional time."
Shannon -- who shares three daughters with David: Sophie, 15, and 12-year-old twins Stella and Adeline -- admitted to People she's "crushed" by the breakup.
"It's heartbreaking for me and my daughters that this is the road that had to be taken but it's the only way," she said.
"I felt alone in my marriage. You can do what you can to keep your family together, but you have to have willing parties. You need two people to make a marriage work, and that just wasn't happening in our relationship."
Shannon also reportedly spoke of her split with herThe Real Housewives co-stars when filming the Season 12 reunion special on Friday.
Shannon and David's tumultuous marriage had been documented on the Bravo reality series since she joined the cast back in 2014 for Season 9.
Shannon revealed in Season 10 that David had been unfaithful, according to People, but then after spending some time in therapy, things were looking up.
Around this same time last year, David and Shannon actually renewed their wedding vows at the Inn at Rancho Santa Fe in California.
So what went wrong? Shannon revealed on The Real Housewives of Orange County's eleventh season that she gained 40 pounds due to the stress of fellow The Real Housewivesstar Vicki Gunvalson alleging David physically abused her.
Shannon allegedly said that her weight "disgusted" David and caused tension between them.
And over the last year, David was reportedly becoming more and more distant, choosing to hit the gym rather than spend time with his wife and kids.
"This is not the path that I thought that I would be taking," Shannon admitted to the magazine. "To come from the highest of the highs last year to go to such a low so quickly? At the beginning when it starts to crumble, you think, 'This is just a phase. It'll get better.' But it never did."
Shannon added that leaving her unhappy relationship allows her to be a good role model for her daughters.
"Three years ago, I was proud of what I showed them, because I fought for keeping my family together after infidelity. As the last year went by, it's been extremely difficult and painful to watch the show, because clearly I was in denial about what was going on in my marriage. I was taking things out on other people instead of at home," explained Shannon.
"As a mother you keep thinking about your daughters and you have to say, 'This is an unhealthy environment.' Not only is it unhealthy for me, but it's unhealthy for my girls, too. They deserve a happy and joyful home, and I am providing that for them now."
Since deciding to separate, Shannon and David have reportedly been trying their best to co-parent the kids amicably, as the family enjoys a weekly dinner together and the parents put on a united front at their girls' sporting events for school.
"I'm a strong person," Shannon insisted to People.
"At this point it's scary, when you're 53-years-old, to be out there on your own. But I intend to show myself and my daughters that it can be done. I'm ready to get the old Shannon back, that's for sure."