Michelle Kujawa: I understand 'The Bachelor' Jake Pavelka's decision
By Reality TV World staff, 01/22/2010
While she was surprised and upset at the time, Michelle Kujawa doesn't harbor any ill-will over The Bachelor: On the Wings Love star Jake Pavelka's decision to take her up on her suggestion that she quit the show during the middle of a group date they were on.
"I totally understand what he is saying when he said that because or if I was in his shoes, if you don't feel with somebody, I don't feel that you should wait a couple more days or however long it is for a Rose Ceremony to not give a rose to somebody," Kujawa told Reality TV World during a Thursday conference call with reporters. "Yes, I was in shock. But I would definitely do what he did if the feelings weren't there."
"I was surprised because I was hoping that, he would have me stay. But at the same time, if he had me stay, you know, there was a Rose Ceremony, maybe I was going to be one to not get a rose. So like he said, 'We don't have to wait for a Rose Ceremony.'"
According to Kujawa, the show's editing did accurately reflect her intense focus on attempting to establish a relationship with Pavelka.
"I mean, when I see myself on TV, that's who I was," Kujawa told reporters. "And of course, I feel I did come out a little bit too strong, but you're at a house with other women competing for one guy [so] you have to show that person how you really feel."
However Kujawa insisted that despite the way it came across on television, her intensity was not driven by a desire to get married in the near future.
"I went on the show to find love," Kujawa said. "I am at that point in my life where, of course, I would love to fall in love with somebody and eventually, down the line, get married and have children. The way I was, you know, shown on TV, it seems like I wanted to get married that minute and have kids, you know, the next day but that's not the case."
"I am not in any rush at all to get married within like this year or have kid this year," she added later. "I need to have a lot of other things before looking into getting married and having kids. Of course, but on the show it seems like I want to get it done and right done in there. "
Overall, Kujawa said she was satisfied with her portrayal on the show and had few regrets.
"I probably wouldn't change anything. That's who I was," she told reporters. "I would say, though [that] I usually don't come out that strong in reality, you know. But it's hard when you are in a house with other women that you don't know, trying to find a connection with Jake. I don't think I would have done anything really different."
"I feel you have to be that way on a show like that. You are there for a limited amount of time. You know, you don't know when you're going to leave, when you are going have your time with Jake. And the time that I did have with him, I had to have my heart on the line. I had to let him know how I felt, and you know... So I don't have any regrets on how, you know, I put my heart out there."
Kujawa's list of non-regrets also included her relationships with the season's other bachelorettes, which became increasingly frayed during her time on the show.
"You've got to understand there [are] other women competing for this guy's affection and love, and hope that you have a connection with him. And to be honest with you, I didn't have an issue with any of the other ladies. I might not have bonded closely as other women did, but I never had an issue with anybody," Kujawa told reporters.
"I spoke my mind. If there was something that I wanted to confront -- if there was somebody that I wanted to confront [I did]... I'm not going to just sit on the sidelines and not say anything; I'm definitely going to say something about it, which I did. And there is no intentions of hurting anybody. I think everybody was great. Everybody was really nice in the house."
During the call, Kujawa also gave her opinion of Elizabeth Kitt, whom Pavelka eliminated after deciding she was a "tease" who was sending him mixed messages -- one of which was a request that he not kiss her unless she was his final pick.
"She was playing games. It's not fun to play games with somebody," Kujawa said. "I've dated around and played the game and had the game play on me, and it's not fun when you are trying to find somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with."
"She was playing the kissing game which I don't feel that you should do that with anybody. I don't know what was going on through her head. And I can't really comment too much about it because I didn't really see the whole conversation between her and Jake."
While she stressed she had left The Bachelor too soon to be certain, Kujawa did share her opinions about which remaining bachelorettes may be the best match for Pavelka.
"It's so early on to tell who would be a best match for him, but... Tenley, I roomed with her. She is a sweetheart, she is just has so much life in her and I think she is a great girl. Ella as well... I did see a very, very strong connection between them," she told reporters.
"So if I had to say who he would end up with, if he ended up with anybody, you know, hopefully, you know, Ali or Tenley. Gia, she is sweetheart. You know, all the girls are really great. So I can't really pinpoint one specific girl. But if I did have to, just from my time being there and seeing what I saw, it would probably Ali."
"I really saw strong a connection between him and Ali."
Kujawa also offered her take on Rozlyn Papa's dismissal for an alleged "inappropriate relationship" with a show producers who was subsequently fired.
"I only saw what I saw and it's unfortunate that, that it happened. And it sucks, because there are so many women out there that want to be on the show, that want to find love," she told Reality TV World. "And it's unfortunate that she would go on the show and do something like that. And you know, I feel bad, but at the same time, you know."
When asked to elaborate on what she "saw," Kujawa offered only one specific.
"I just saw what other women had commented about, I woke up one morning in the house and she was sleeping on the couch, which I thought was weird because why would she sleep on the couch when you have -- you know, your roommate's upstairs and you have a nice comfy bed upstairs, maybe she had a rough night, maybe she didn't get along with some of the girls. I have no idea," she told Reality TV World.
"But that's the only thing I saw. I didn't see anything in connection with her having you know, relations with somebody out from, you know, in the house. I just saw her sleeping on the couch, that's all I saw. And I didn't see -- like I said I didn't see anything else."