The Bachelor runner-up Litia Garr has reacted to Juliana Pasquarosa's recent mean-girl allegations.
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But now that Grant and Juliana have gone public with their romance and are happily engaged, Juliana alleged during an early April episode of "The Viall Files" podcast that Litia has "not been the kindest" to her post-show.
When host Nick Viall had asked Juliana if Litia's behavior felt "Mean Girls-ish," Juliana replied, "Definitely... It's hurtful, and not anything that I want to surround myself with at any point in my life."
Litia, 31, broke her silence about her relationship with Grant and her falling out with Juliana during a subsequent appearance on the "Relationsh*t with Kamie Crawford" podcast.
Litia had called Juliana "beautiful" and "great" in the past, and Litia assured listeners that she "meant everything" she had said about Grant's winner.
"And anything that I've done that has been offensive to someone, that's not my intention," Litia insisted on the podcast.
"To me, the friendships that I have with the women in my season are [because] that's where I've invested time -- in cultivating a friendship with them. So my friendships and any support that I get from them is the result of lots of FaceTimes and messages and checking in on each other and being there for each other. It's friendship, you know?"
Juliana, however, told Nick earlier this month that she felt like Grant's The Bachelor exes were giving her the cold shoulder.
"I think when the AFR came and I had reached out to a few girls from my season that were going to come to the actual live filming of it, I was told that, you know, they were coming in support of Litia -- and that, to me, I was like, 'Oh sh-t! I didn't know sides were being taken like that,'" Juliana recalled.
"They tried to phrase it in a way, like, 'The more the merrier!' But that's when I think I kind of learned the reality."
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Juliana explained that if the women attended the finale to support Litia, then they "totally" weren't there to support her relationship with Grant.
"And my stance right now is, 'If you're pro or for me, you are for Grant. You can't be for me and not support him.' We are two for one at this point, and I draw the line right there," Juliana said at the time.
Litia admitted to Kamie Crawford that it's hard for her to hear that Juliana has been struggling post-show emotionally.
"I feel bad that [my experience] hasn't been her experience. That's not my intention," Litia noted.
"But I'm not going to make my friendships smaller or ask my friends not to support me. I'm certainly not going to ASK them to support me or to pick [my side]. They're all their own people, and they're supporting the people that they want to."
Litia continued: "And I think everyone, as far as I'm concerned, supports everyone. The women have all had their own, you know, issues with Grant and things that were said to them, and so I think that's important to remember."
Litia therefore suggested that the Season 29 women have more of an issue with Grant than they do with Juliana.
"It's not necessarily anything to do with [Juliana]. It's probably more to do with him. But I don't know that. I can only speak for myself," Litia said.
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"There's so many FaceTimes and texts between her and I that don't have any bad blood. And so that was new information to me, when she felt that way," Litia confessed of Juliana.
"It's interesting that more than, like, the interpersonal dynamics of feeling left out by something or feeling a type of way watching it back, it's not as much that interaction that creates the divide, it becomes polarizing when the Internet gets involved."
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Litia seemed to suggest that the media pumping out negative or unflattering headlines about her, based on Juliana's comments in recent interviews, hasn't helped the women's post-show friendship.
"It's hard not to hold it against that person when [I ask myself], 'Why aren't you stopping this hate? Can't you see all the negativity that I'm getting? It's easy for you to say that that's not true,'" Litia vented.
Litia pointed out that Juliana should come talk to her "privately" if she truly feels that way.
"And at this point on our season, almost everyone has had a healthy dose of hateful comments and misconceptions, and so to me, to perpetuate hateful comments and narratives toward someone else is the thing that actually creates the divide," Litia reiterated.
"It's less about what you actually did to me, and it's [more about] the conversation that you let continue when it makes it so that we can't be close."
But Litia claimed that right after the show, she and Juliana exchanged kind words and well wishes.
"I feel like we were all very supportive of each other and very aware that [being on a reality dating show] is so weird. We were hoping for the best for everyone and wanting everyone to be happy," Litia said.
Litia pointed out how you simply "can't" be friends with everybody but she gives other people grace.
"We don't need to be best friends, but in any way that I felt like I could, I [stuck] up for anyone getting hate, even though we weren't necessarily close, because we're all in this together and we're all going through it for the first time," Litia explained.
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Litia therefore shared, "I think that's the most hurtful part of all of this -- it's not necessarily the things that are said and done but what you enable a group of people to do, and you fuel conversations where people are tearing someone down."
Litia suggested that Juliana has "the power to weigh in and let the air out of that balloon."
Litia concluded it's especially surprising for Juliana to add to those negative conversations when a person "knows what it's like to be on the receiving end of the hate."
Juliana apparently had an issue with some of Litia's comments during The Bachelor's Final Rose Ceremony and on the live After the Final Rose segment.
Not only did Litia tell Grant that Juliana should have "a lot of questions" for him, but Grant's runner-up announced on AFR that she's "glad" that last week of filming The Bachelor won't be a part of her love story.
"I know that I deserve someone waking up one morning and knowing without a shadow of a doubt that [he's] going to choose me. I think every woman deserves that, and I'm excited to find it," Litia declared.
Juliana complained that those "jabs" were "uncalled for" on "The Viall Files," and she added that Litia's comments "were not expected in any capacity" and that her feelings were "hurt by it, for sure."
In addition to her "jabs" at Juliana on After the Final Rose, Litia also alleged Grant had lied to her for weeks by insisting -- starting from their very first one-on-one date of the season -- that she was going to be his The Bachelor winner.
Litia alleged to The Bachelor host Jesse Palmer of her final date with Grant in the Dominican Republic, "I remember saying goodbye to him and saying, 'Oh my gosh we're getting engaged tomorrow!' And [Grant] said, 'I know, I can't wait! I love you, I love you, I love you!'"
Litia therefore concluded that Grant's decision to be with Juliana was a total last-minute "switch up," but Grant has a different recollection of the events.
Following a whirlwind romance and quite a bit of drama, Grant and Juliana are still together but are in "no rush" to tie the knot.
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