'The Bachelor' alum Peter Weber explains why he feels his past relationships didn't work out
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 08/25/2021
The Bachelor alum Peter Weber has explained why he feels his past relationships didn't work out and how he has the tendency to "self-sabotage" when he's dating a woman.
Peter, who starred on The Bachelor's 24th season last year, has been single for "eight or nine months" and said he "can't remember the last time" he went so long without dating someone or having a girlfriend.
During the Tuesday episode of Peter and Dustin Kendrick's "Bachelors in the City" podcast, Famously Single star Dr. Darcy Sterling asked Peter to reveal the common complaints he hears from women he's dated.
"I've been a people-pleaser in the past, and that's kind of gotten me in trouble, specifically with relationships," Peter, 30, began. "I think my biggest struggle is I'm such a perfectionist. That's just my nature."
Peter said he's "always been" that way and while it's a great way to be in his career, it makes relationships "hard."
"I know nobody's perfect and I get that, but because I'm a hopeless romantic -- and I will be until the day I die -- I think I have this image in my head of what a relationship looks like or it's going to look like for me," Peter shared.
"And, especially in the beginning stages, if it's not that or as we get into the relationship that fades a little bit, I internally kind of freak out a little bit."
Peter said he maintains the mindset that he "never wants to settle" and "life is too short to fake something," which can apparently result in him running from a romance or checking out too early.
"I feel like, sometimes, the hopeless romantic in me kind of backfires, because I put such this high level of expectation in my head," Peter explained. "And I understand that it will probably never be met."
He continued, "So I think in the last eight or nine months, I've really been realizing that and observing how I have been in the past and how I want to try to change myself and mature moving forward."
Peter described being a hopeless romantic as his "biggest Achilles heel."
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When recalling his past relationships, Peter said things start off great with a lot of passion and "fire."
"I'm all about that," Peter noted, adding that he idealizes his parents' marriage and how they still have a spark between them after so many years together.
"That's a model of what I wanted, and so, if for whatever reason the smallest little thing [happens] and I'm like, 'Oh, I don't know about that,' or, 'It's starting to fade a little bit and it's not how it used to be,' if I'm being completely honest with you guys, I feel like maybe I self-sabotage the relationship a little bit," he confessed.
Peter's most recent relationship was with his The Bachelor fifth-place finisher Kelley Flanagan, whom Peter eliminated before the women's round of hometown dates.
After eight months of dating, Kelley and Peter announced their split on New Year's Eve. However, the pair briefly reconciled and gave their relationship another shot, until Kelley and Peter's romance ended for good in mid-February.
The former couple's split turned nasty, with Peter and Kelley exchanging insults in the press.
"Obviously there's two sides to every story, and yes, it's true that usually the truth lies a little bit, you know, in between both those sides," Peter said during a recent episode of the "Tea With Publyssity" podcast.
"But I said my piece, and, like, I have no desire to further that... I've moved on. I know she's moved on... I truly wish her nothing but the best."
Peter added that it was "the most amazing relationship" he's ever had in her life.
On May 20, Kelley appeared on the "Chicks in the Office" podcast and said her relationship with Peter ended "really badly" in February because there were some "non-negotiables" in their relationship and the pair apparently lacked good communication.
Kelley admitted she would "just run" if she ever bumped into her ex in the streets of New York, where they both currently live.
Kelley also revealed on the podcast Peter has childlike-hobbies such as collecting Pokemon cards and playing video games.
Kelley recalled telling Peter to "get out of my life and lose my number," which she thought was fair to say at the time.
"I was drawing a healthy boundary that I needed," Kelley claimed.
Peter then addressed Kelley's biting remarks during the May 25 episode of his "Bachelors in the City" podcast, telling his listeners that Kelley seemed to be riding the fame wave and trying to push headlines with her "calculated and disingenuous" statements.
Peter claimed he had reached out to Kelley's friend after his February breakup in attempt to open a line of communication with Kelley.
Peter recalled the friend allegedly telling him that Kelley expected a "grandiose gesture" or "big public display" to ever have a shot at being on speaking terms, which apparently rubbed Peter the wrong way since he wanted to handle his issues with Kelley in private.
Peter said he had reached out to Kelley again in May and received "zero response."
In late May, Kelley fired back at Peter for bashing her approach to speaking about their breakup.
"When there are things out there that are misconstrued, I am always going to stand up for myself, as I think everyone else should," Kelley said in a YouTube video at the time.
"The things being said about me are that I'm calculated, that I want to hit headlines, that I'm disingenuous and things like that."
Kelley said she had asked her manager multiple times to warn Peter to stop bringing up her name in the press but Peter never silenced himself.
"I will never let anyone create a narrative for me, so finally the bear was poked. There were a lot of things going on, even me being disrespected," Kelley said.
She added, "When you end badly with someone, you would think they would just try to respect you a little bit and just go their way instead of reaching out to my 'friends.'"
Kelley admitted it "sucks" she can no longer look back on her relationship with Peter and see it as having been "a great relationship" with mutual respect.
"But in my scenario, when something happened that's extremely disrespectful, you have to know your worth and you have to sit there and say, 'Good luck to you. I wish you the best in the future but I don't necessarily want you in my life,'" Kelley concluded.
Prior to dating Kelley, Peter had a failed engagement to his season's winner Hannah Ann Sluss.
After failing to revive a romance with his The Bachelor frontrunner Madison Prewett, who quit the show during her final date with Peter, in March 2020, Peter reunited with Kelley in her hometown of Chicago to quarantine together at the start of the coronavirus pandemic.