90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple Ximena Morales Cuellar and Mike Berk have chosen to stay together despite facing adversity very early in their relationship, so what happened between this pair? Did Ximena and Mike break up or do 90 Day Fiance spoilers reveal that they're still together now?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report features spoilers about the current status of Mike and Ximena's relationship and if the 90 Day Fiance couple split up or took their romance to the next level].
On Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days, Mike, a 34-year-old IT support technician and volunteer firefighter from Thiells, NY, revealed how he had met Ximena, a 24-year-old from Pereira, Colombia, on a dating app after being single for 20 years or so.
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Mike hadn't been in a serious relationship since high school and he wanted to find a woman with whom to settle down.
"Since I went 34 years without finding a woman in my local area, I just decided to change my location in the dating app and switched it over to Colombia, and I met someone that made my dreams come true," Mike explained in a confessional.
When Mike saw Ximena, he thought she was "the most beautiful woman in the world." The pair went on to communicate for about a year.
"She's the first person I truly feel like I fell in love with, and we even went as far as talking about getting married and having kids together. We have that connection, both mentally and emotionally," Mike revealed.
However, there was a language barrier between them since Mike only spoke a little Spanish and Ximena only spoke Spanish.
Regardless, Mike said he couldn't stand to be apart from Ximena any longer and so he had booked a ticket to Colombia and couldn't wait to hold her and be with her in person.
Mike planned to propose marriage if everything went according to plan. He trusted Ximena, pointing out how she had never lied to him.
Mike dreamt of Ximena and her two sons, Harold and Juan, moving in with him in the United States. (Mike lived with his father and grandfather at the time). He gushed about really wanting to "go for it" and start a family.
But Mike's friends were concerned about Mike sending Ximena money for rent and other things such as her refrigerator and washing machine. Mike's pals worried Ximena had "guys all over" sending her money, and they didn't want to see a woman "milking" Mike for his cash.
"This relationship seems like it's too good to be true, but at the end of the day, I know this is real and it makes me happy. So I'm just going to go with it," Mike acknowledged.
RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWMike then packed his belongings, as well as an engagement ring, for a two-week trip to Colombia.
Mike's father and grandfather advised Mike to be careful and cautious, but Mike revealed how he wanted to start the K-1 visa process and then move Ximena -- and her three and seven year olds -- to America.
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"I'm 34 years old and I've never been in love, but with Ximena, I've found happiness and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with her. It's been my fantasy -- seeing her face, her beautiful eyes and her beautiful body," Mike told the cameras.
Mike said if he discovered Ximena had been using him the whole time, his heart would be broken.
Prior to Mike's arrival, Ximena shared how she lived in Pereira in Colombia with her two boys and being a mother was her joy and main priority.
"Juan's dad was a one-night stand, and that was it," Ximena revealed. "And Harold's dad is in jail. He wanted to defend his uncle and acted without thinking, and so that's what he's paying for now."
Ximena had met Harold's dad on Facebook and talked to him for four or five months, and she said she loved him very much. Ximena apparently visited this man in jail and got it in her head that she wanted to have a child and so she got pregnant on her second visit to the jail.
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Ximena was also struggling financially as a manicurist amid COVID-19. Mike had therefore been sending her money for a couch, dining table, refrigerator, stove, blender, coffee maker and more. Mike had also been sending her money for food and rent.
"I stay afloat with what Mike contributes to me," Ximena said. "But Mike is not the kind of guy I'm usually attracted to because I like big men. My ex-boyfriends have been policemen, tattoo artists, farmers, even drug dealers."
Ximena admitted that she didn't find Mike physically attractive but she was attracted to his heart.
Ximena, however, had been keeping some secrets from Mike about her past and she was afraid how he'd react.
"Maybe I'm not what he was expecting to find," Ximena explained.
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Ximena and Mike had a sweet meeting at the airport in which they hugged and kissed on the lips, and Mike said he was "extremely happy" seeing Ximena for the first time.
But Ximena admitted her first kiss with Mike wasn't passionate, adding, "I think there will be more kisses better than that one."
Ximena said Mike looked like "a sweetie" with his little glasses but he's also shorter than she thought he'd be.
In the cab ride to a restaurant, Ximena grilled Mike on the text messages in his phone, and he just hoped Ximena would learn to trust him. However, he appreciated Ximena acting like he's all hers and didn't seem to mind her being a little jealous.
Ximena proceeded to introduce Mike to her family, including her sister, brother, stepmother Derly and father Jamir. Mike also met nine-year-old Juan and three-year-old Harold.
Mike was a little overwhelmed and nervous to meet Ximena's entire extended family, and he struggled to talk to them and be understood.
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Mike and Ximena then spent the night together once the boys got settled in their own beds.
Mike said his first night with Ximena in bed was "the best time" he's ever had with a woman.
"Ximena knocked it out of the park. We had a great time over and over again," Mike said.
But Ximena said the sex was just "normal" for her and "nothing out of this world," even though it seemed to be the best moment of Mike's life.
Ximena, however, had yet to tell Mike that she can't have any more kids, and Mike definitely wanted a child of his own.
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"I suffered a lot with my two deliveries because to have a child Caesarean is the worst pain a mother could go through. So I decided to get operated [on] and they cut my tubes and burned them, so that I definitely couldn't have more kids," Ximena revealed in a confessional.
She admitted it was a mistake not to warn Mike of this before his trip to Colombia but she wanted to tell him in person.
"I feel super nervous because I feel like I love him," Ximena said. "So for me it would be fatal if he ended it and left."
Ximena ended up sharing this news with Mike, and although he was very disappointed, he took the letdown pretty well.
Mike wished he had been told this sooner because he didn't like having secrets between them, but he said other things could be done if they want to have a child together.
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Mike admitted he would be "really devastated" if he couldn't have any children of his own and so he didn't know where to go from there with Ximena.
Ximena explained to Mike how she had suffered a lot of pain with the contractions and got really scared. She didn't think she'd have a partner again since she had repeatedly been disappointed by men. She said she had gotten involved with men she shouldn't have.
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"I didn't think that I'd meet you. It's not my fault," Ximena said.
Ximena told the cameras having a baby with Mike would make a perfect family, and so she was clearly upset about her past decisions.
Mike asked if Ximena could undo the surgery, but she said "no" because she had cut and burned her tubes instead of just tying them. It was the most definitive way to ensure she'd never be able to have another baby.
Mike asked Ximena why she thought their relationship would work when he's always wanted a child, and she didn't know how to respond.
"Do you regret having come to Colombia?" Ximena asked Mike.
"I don't know," Mike replied.
Ximena told Mike that Juan and Harold never had a father before and he could be their dad. She suggested how Mike leaving them would devastate her family.
Mike acknowledged that he loved Harold and Juan like his own children and they're amazing.
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"Forgive me for not being able to give you a child," Ximena requested.
"It's okay," Mike responded. "We can raise Harold and Juan together."
Ximena cried with happiness and said she would like that. Mike, however, still had to grasp the idea of giving up on a biological family of his own. Mike also made Ximena swear that she wouldn't keep any more secrets from him.
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The pair hugged and expressed love to one another, and Mike said his gut was telling him that they're meant to be together. However, Mike noted how Ximena had to win back his trust.
After choosing to stay together, Mike booked a romantic getaway so he could get to know Ximena better and they could have some privacy as well as deep conversation.
When the couple sat in a hot tub together outside of their villa, Ximena opened up about her past "crazy" relationships with "aggressive partners" -- and she once lived with a hitman who claimed to be a tattoo artist!
"He ordered to have me killed. Well, he had me locked up," Ximena revealed.
Ximena said the man threatened to kill her after he found out he was a hitman and attempted to end the relationship. She said after they parted ways, she never heard from him again.
Mike therefore became worried for his life, but Ximena said this happened two years ago and she believed her family would be okay.
So what is the latest on Mike and Ximena's relationship status? Is the 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple still together now?
Ximena recently posted two videos on her TikTok account -- which have since been deleted -- indicating she and Mike are still together.
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Not only that, it appears Mike and Ximena got engaged, Soap Dirt reported.
In the first of two videos Ximena posted that no longer appear on her TikTok account, she showed a picture of Mike holding a ring box as well as her wearing an off-the-shoulder sparkly wedding dress.
Since the couple was not together for either picture, Mike may have waited to pop the question once he returned to America after his visit to Colombia.
"I love you my life. Thank you for so much happiness," Ximena wrote in Spanish, according to Soap Dirt.
In the second video, Ximena shared a picture of another wedding dress hanging up as well as a ring box by itself.
She simply captioned the post, when translated from Spanish to English, "Marry me!"
It's very possible Mike and Ximena also tied the knot, but evidence suggests they got engaged at the very least.
Mike has also led his Instagram followers to believe that he and Ximena are an item.
Mike frequently posts lovey-dovey "throwback" photos with Ximena, and if he was hurting or their relationship ended badly, he'd be less likely to share those happy memories so often.
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