90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' fifth season featured Memphis giving Hamza an ultimatum about marriage, so did the couple follow through with their marriage plans or did they split because of their differences -- and do spoilers reveal Memphis and Hamza are still together now?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report contains spoilers on Memphis and Hamza's relationship and whether the 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple is still dating, engaged or have gotten married].
Memphis is a 34-year-old from Muskegon, MI, and Hamza is a 28-year-old from Kairouan, Tunisia.
After being single for four years and dating around quite a bit, Memphis -- who called herself spontaneous and fun -- met a "special" guy named Hamza eight months prior to filming 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days.
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Hamza apparently inspired Memphis to leave her wild days in the past.
Memphis is a single mom to a 13-year-old daughter named Kennedi, whom she welcomed from a relationship that took place 14 years ago, as well as a six-year-old son, whom she shares custody of with her ex-husband.
Memphis said she works hard to support her children and put herself through school for over eight years to obtain her Master's degree and become a nurse practitioner.
Memphis was so proud of her life but wanted to share it with a man, and dating American men online apparently wasn't working out for her.
Memphis said Hamza had given her "butterflies" that she never felt before.
"He's very considerate," she gushed on the show.
"He tells me where he's going and every morning I get 'good morning' text messages and 'I love you.' I'm just so overjoyed that someone actually cares for me as much as I care for them. I haven't experienced that all my life."
Memphis said feeling loved and cared for is how she determined she wanted to be with him long-term.
The only problem was the couple's language barrier since Hamza only speaks a little English and she doesn't speak any Arabic. She joked about how the only words they both knew was "sexy time."
RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWMemphis planned to fly to Tunisia and take "sexy time" to a whole new level. She said she was truly in love with Hamza and wanted to skip getting engaged and go straight to getting married.
Memphis intended to spend one week with Hamza in person, get married during Week 2, and then spend the third week honeymooning and enjoying being newlyweds.
While Memphis' friends were a little worried and skeptical about Memphis skipping the K-1 visa and going straight to a spousal visa, Memphis was convinced she had found her perfect match and the man of her dreams.
One of Memphis' pals pointed out how Hamza could be after a green card, but Memphis said Hamza wanted to start a new life, and a better life, with her. She dubbed Hamza consistent, but her friends apparently disagreed with her spontaneous choices and feared Memphis getting hurt.
"I'm going to do what I want to do regardless, because I feel like this is right in my gut and in my heart," Memphis explained.
Memphis' mother Deborah, however, told the cameras that she thought Hamza probably had an ulterior motive -- and she wasn't sure Hamza would be a good stepdad.
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Memphis claimed she had told Hamza he must get a job in the United States in heating and cooling, so she didn't plan on supporting him financially for very long.
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Memphis felt her childhood played a part in her desire to feel secure with a man. She thought being married would fill a hole she had in her heart, and Memphis looked forward to having a stable and complete family.
"I just hope in my heart the decision I am making is the right one," Memphis noted.
Memphis believed her choices would benefit her kids in the long run because they'd have a stable father figure and she'd be happy with a man whom she shared an "amazing connection" with.
But her foster sister Ingrid said in a confessional, "Memphis is a hothead and can be very intimidating, so I am very concerned that Hamza is not ready for Memphis."
Hamza apparently knew that Memphis and her ex-husband coparent very well.
"But what Hamza doesn't know is that when we started dated, I was going through a rough patch in my life. So I spent a couple of nights with my ex-husband, not in an intimate way, but only for emotional and moral support," Memphis told the cameras.
"But Hamza is very jealous, so if he finds out, it's going to be a problem."
Memphis said she had been missing emotional and physical intimacy in her past relationships and hoped Hamza would give that to her.
"I am 1,000 percent invested in marrying a man I've never met before and making him a father figure to my children," Memphis explained.
"Having a complete family with a man I can trust is something I've always dreamed of. It's time for me to be happy, and I truly believe Hamza is the man for me. I just hope he is who he says he is and that he's the right man for me."
Hamza still lived with his parents, which he claimed is normal in Tunisia for men until they get married. Hamza's mother still cooked for him and did his laundry, and he appeared well taken care of at home.
Hamza's parents got divorced when he was 10 years old, and he said his mother is "everything" to him.
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"How I see things, if two people love each other, sex before marriage is normal," Hamza said, before telling his mother that the world had changed and spending the night with a woman would be okay.
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Hamza apparently lied to Memphis, saying his "old-fashioned" mother would be okay with them sleeping together. Hamza feared Memphis wouldn't like his mother and tension and stress would rise in their relationship as a result.
When the pair met each other at the airport, they hugged and seemed so happy. Hamza also brought Memphis a beautiful bouquet of flowers.
Hamza told the cameras he had "no problem" with Memphis and her physical appearance was "fine," but Memphis hoped they could get to know each other given their language barrier.
Memphis was pissed off when she found out that Hamza's mother didn't want them sleeping in the same room. She told Hamza, however, they needed to have sex before marriage to make sure they're compatible physically.
The next morning, Hamza's mother discovered Memphis and Hamza were in the same room together, and so she seemed to assume Memphis had spent the night with her son.
Hamza's mother appeared to be disappointed and angry, and Memphis blurted out "oh sh-t" in a confessional. The situation led to a tense relationship between Hamza's mother and Memphis, especially when Memphis' past came into question.
Once Memphis explained to Hamza how she had a fear of abandonment due to her childhood, she became more vulnerable and the couple felt closer than ever.
But Memphis soon later learned Hamza had lied about his age and he's only 26 years old. He had told Memphis he was 28 at the time. Feeling extremely upset, Memphis said she felt "betrayed" and lied to.
Hamza said he lied because he wanted Memphis to think he's mature, and his mother and sister didn't think the lie was serious or a big deal.
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However, the lie made Memphis question whether she even wanted to go through with marriage, and she wondered what else her fiance could be lying about.
Memphis shared with the cameras how she had very rough relationships in the past and didn't want this one to turn out the same way. She was tired of being betrayed, hurt and taken advantage of, but all Hamza could do is apologize -- repeatedly.
Memphis became skeptical of everything else Hamza had told her as a result of his lie. She wondered if Hamza had a career and truly received a college degree in heating and cooling energy. She asked to see the certificate as proof, but it was written in Arabic.
Hamza worried lying about his age had really hurt his relationship, but he promised Memphis he wouldn't lie about anything again.
Memphis and Hamza then headed to an embassy two hours away to get the ball rolling on their marriage. They couple planned to stay in a hotel together overnight, but Hamza didn't have anything planned out.
The couple's driver also forgot his insurance papers, and so Memphis told Hamza that he needed to be more prepared for things.
"Memphis nags me a lot. I do not like her attitude at all," Hamza complained.
The couple wasn't going to make it to the consulate on time, and Memphis told Hamza that he didn't seem to care and getting married appeared to be a game to him. She accused him of being immature and "not being a man."
Memphis, however, was very pleased with their room that night, when they finally arrived.
While drinking cocktails, Memphis essentially told Hamza that she didn't want to return to the United States just dating him.
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"You like Hamza or you like marriage?" Hamza asked.
"I like both," Memphis admitted. "You have to show that you can do good for me. I need you to be the man."
Memphis gave Hamza an ultimatum that they either get married or break up. She said if Hamza really cared about her, he would make sure they got married during that trip.
So are Memphis and Hamza still together now? Did they get married or has the 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple broken up?
In late January, 90 Day Fiance Instagrammer John Yates posted a screenshot of a photo from Hamza's Instagram account.
In the comments of Hamza's selfie, Memphis' mother Deborah Smith Price wrote, "Hello handsome son in law," seemingly giving away that Memphis and Hamza are in fact married.
Hamza replied, "Thank mam," along with four red-heart emojis.
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John went on to post screenshots of a man named Travis' alleged tweets from January 8 through January 9.
Travis claimed to be Memphis' ex-boyfriend, and he reportedly bashed Memphis by saying he'd never want to have kids with her and his reasoning for letting her go should be obvious based off the footage that has aired on 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' fifth season.
While Travis appeared to note Memphis is "a good woman" who just picks "bad men" and makes bad decisions, he accused her of being wrapped up in her ex-husband.
"Her ex husband is the love of her life, not this new guy [Hamza]. She stayed overnight at her ex husband's when we lived together," Travis tweeted, according to John's screenshot.
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Travis apparently went on to post a big "spoiler alert," writing about Memphis, "She is bipolar [and]] was pregnant with his baby. She had the baby a few months ago."
Travis was referring to Hamza and pointed out to Twitter users that 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days, although it's just airing now, filmed about a year ago.
Travis therefore suggested Memphis had plenty of time to get pregnant and deliver a child before the premiere of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' fifth season.
After John posted Travis' tweets, Memphis apparently reached out to John in a DM to scold him for sharing unflattering information about her on Instagram.
In a post captioned, "Cause I just don't care anymore," John uploaded an alleged screenshot of his conversation with Memphis.
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Memphis allegedly wrote to him, "I think it is sad that you post things from people who obviously are desperate and want some acknowledgement because their life sucks so bad!"
"At the end of the day, I do not have to go online and talk bad about people," she continued.
"Especially, with ill intention! Trav is very bitter and all my friends and family know it and thought it was quite funny that he is so desperate for 'clout' that he has to tell lies!"
Memphis sarcastically applauded him and said, "But I guess keep doing you and spreading the hate! Good job."
John apparently replied to Memphis, "I didn't say anything -- I used question marks cause I was just reporting on things that was said. Everyone else is saying you already had a kid and are married."
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She confirmed how she had an issue with John calling attention to Travis' tweets when Travis is allegedly "so desperate for attention."
"I really wish people would try to look beyond some of the things because at the end of the day, it is TV. Where is the disclaimer that states that the show is a certain percent true events? Just wondering!" Memphis complained.
"I'm not trying to be rude or anything. It is just saddening to me!"
John told Memphis she had signed up for the show and he's just doing his job. He also insisted he was being "very considerate" of her when he felt personally attacked by her.
John concluded -- referencing her alleged marriage and the baby again -- "All I did was repost [your] own mother calling Hamza her son in law... It's clear that [Travis is] legit as you just confirmed his existence, but at no point did I ever say you were married and had a baby."
"Everyone else has -- I haven't," he noted. "People are looking up your baby registries right now."
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