'90 Day Fiance' recap: Mohamed wants Yve to convert, Shaeeda and Bilal clash, Kobe swears at Emily, Ariela flips out, and Thais disapproves
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 06/06/2022
90 Day Fiance featured Mohamed Abdelhamed expecting Yvette "Yve" Arellano to convert to Islam and become a Muslim, Shaeeda and Bilal Hazzies realizing their differences and butting heads, Kobe Blaise swearing at Emily Bieberly, Ariela Weinberg flipping out over Biniyam Shibre training for MMA fights with a woman, and Thais disapproving of her new home in Dallas during the Season 9 episode that aired Sunday night on TLC.
90 Day Fiance's ninth season stars Emily, a 29-year-old from Salina, KS, and Kobe, a 34-year-old from Cameroon; Kara Bass, a 29-year-old from Charlottesville, VA, and Guillermo Rojer, a 23-year-old from Venezuela; Bilal, a 42-year-old from Kansas City, MO, and Shaeeda, a 37-year-old from Trinidad and Tobago; and Jibri Bell, a 28-year-old from Rapid City, SD, and Miona, a 23-year-old from Serbia.
The show also stars Yve, 48-year-old from Albuquerque, NM, and Mohamed, a 25-year-old from Egypt; Patrick Mendes, a 31-year-old from Austin, TX, and Thais Ramone, a 25-year-old from Brazil; and Ariela, a 30-year-old from Princeton, NJ, and Biniyam, a 31-year-old from Ethiopia.
Ari and Biniyam first appeared on Seasons 2 and 3 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way and have a child together named Avi.
90 Day Fiance features Americans who have fallen in love with foreigners bringing their fiances to the United States on K-1 visas.
However, once the couple is in America together, the American must marry their overseas partner within the 90-day period allowed by the visa or the foreigner has to return to their home country.
"The pressure is on and with travel guidelines more challenging than ever, there's even more at stake with these international love stories," TLC teased of the new season.
"Couples aren't just navigating unique lifestyle and cultural changes when arriving in America -- many of them must also adjust to parenthood and nontraditional family lifestyles. And while absence makes the heart grow fonder, personalities and temperaments have changed and not always for the best."
Below is what happened on Episode 8 of 90 Day Fiance's ninth season.
SHAEEDA and BILAL
On Shaeeda's second Friday in the United States, Bilal was wondering why Shaeeda was dressed in sweatpants when he figured they'd be going to Jum'ah for midday prayer, which is a crucial part of the Islam faith in Bilal's eyes.
Bilal had been single for years and attending midday prayer alone, so he looked forward to finding a partner with whom he could pray, reflect and share in his religion.
Shaeeda explained how women didn't have to attend Jum'ah every week and she was feeling a little hormonal and shouldn't have to go. Shaeeda said she wanted to stay home and women had their reasons, such as breastfeeding or menstruation.
"Last time I went, Bilal and I got into a huge fight, and I spent the whole time feeling very upset and uncomfortable, so I'm really not looking forward to going back," Shaeeda said in a confessional.
Bilal shared how he wasn't going to tell Shaeeda what to do but he preferred that she would go with him on a regular basis.
Bilal suggested that Shaeeda should "learn" their religion as Muslims, and then Shaeeda complained about how Bilal tended to "lecture" her by changing the tone of his voice, explaining things, and speaking in a very articulate way.
Shaeeda complained to the cameras how she felt like she was being lectured by her father.
And then Bilal found one of Shaeeda's pins for her hijab pressed into the couch. Bilal got upset, pointing out how his couch was very expensive, but Shaeeda said he was being "ridiculous."
"I want Shaeeda to feel like this is her home and she's queen of the home, but there's also a fine line where when I see things that are left everywhere, like little pins... don't leave it on the couch or on the floor... Just put it away," Bilal vented in a confessional.
Bilal wished Shaeeda would meet people in his community and get to know them, and he was clearly disappointed because he had been attracted to Shaeeda from the beginning for her roots in Islam.
Bilal wanted Shaeeda to be active in the community, and so he hoped she would come around.
"If she doesn't, I really can't see us getting to the finish line," Bilal lamented.
When Bilal returned home from Jum'ah, he noticed there was water all over the kitchen from when Shaeeda had washed herself before prayer.
Shaeeda thought Bilal was overreacting, and she said his "OCD" was getting on her nerves. She felt like she was living with a king and trying to follow his rules and meet his demands all the time.
Bilal also complained about how Shaeeda had thrown their utensils into a drawer without organizing them. Bilal insisted that he was "neat" but not OCD and Shaeeda was pretty messy.
Shaeeda realized she and Bilal had differences and he'd have to loosen up a bit. She hoped Bilal would be able to compromise and understand that they shared their home and she has different habits and expectations.
EMILY and KOBE
With 75 days to wed, Kobe saw horses for the first time at Emily's family's farm. The pair had been on a bit of a rocky road and bickering in front of Emily's parents, and so she wanted to show her parents how Kobe could contribute and be a good addition to their family.
Kobe therefore learned how to shovel horse manure, but Kobe was afraid of the horses and suddenly really missed Cameroon, where it was warm and he could play sports and drink beer with his friends.
"I miss life back home. And sometimes, part of me feels like Emily doesn't care about the sacrifices I made by leaving my home in Africa to be here, and it's really weighing down on me," Kobe said.
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Emily thought it was "cute" that Kobe thought he needed to be careful around the horses, but Kobe just thought it was cold outside and didn't seem to enjoy the hard labor. Kobe said he looked forward to working in America, but probably not this kind of work.
Emily tried to tell Kobe how to shovel properly, but he begged her to just let him do things his way. They once again bickered, and Kobe accused Emily of wanting to fight about almost everything.
"You just want to control everything," Kobe complained.
Kobe told the cameras that Emily wasn't his boss and he felt like she was just trying to show her family that she was in control of him -- and he was "losing [his] patience."
"You're being rude," Emily said.
"I am not being rude. Can you just shut the f-ck up?" Kobe snapped.
"I cannot believe you just said that to me," Emily griped.
Kobe explained how he felt he had been dropped into a test and he didn't need Emily watching his every move, and so she stormed off and called Kobe "rude." Emily didn't like the way Kobe had spoken to her when she was just trying to help him.
The pair had only spent two months together before Emily got pregnant, and she didn't want their relationship to continue in this manner.
"I am second guessing myself, I think. I've never seen that Kobe before," Emily noted.
Emily's mother told Kobe that her husband would never talk to her that way, and she said Emily being a little bossy did not justify Kobe's language.
When Kobe and Emily reunited after a day's work, Kobe didn't apologize and Emily couldn't believe that he thought his behavior was okay.
"We need to figure this out or this is not going to f-cking work. You don't see the big picture that what you had said to me is wrong," Emily explained.
"I'm sorry for saying that," Kobe replied, adding, "That was wrong."
Emily also apologized for being too talkative while he was working, and the couple seemed to get back on track.
Kobe said he loved Emily and wanted to marry her but she'd have to learn how to listen to him. And in turn, Emily said she never wanted to see Kobe act like that again.
JIBRI and MIONA
With 55 days to wed, Jibri and Miona were shown packing for their trip to Chicago, where Jibri and his band were going to work with a prominent music producer and finish an album.
Miona had demanded a beach wedding during their time in Chicago, but Jibri didn't know how they were going to afford that. He also figured he'd have to do some mediating between Miona and his best friend David since the pair didn't really get along or respect each other.
Miona said she was excited to see Chicago but she didn't trust David. Jibri asked Miona to give David -- his best friend of 10 years -- a chance, especially since the men had been through some major ups and downs together in life.
Jibri's band also felt Miona had taken Jibri away from them, and so the situation was a tense one. Jibri didn't want anyone getting hurt or into a fight, and he also didn't want to have to choose between the two most important people in his life.
Jibri had obtained his commercial driver's license to drive a truck, but he thought he'd be able to make a lot more money through making music. David suggested Jibri should do more driving than singing, which caught both Miona and Jibri offguard.
Miona told David that she loved Jibri and was not a distraction in his career, and she insisted that she had Jibri's best interests in mind.
David told the cameras that Miona held Jibri back and he could see that the fire in Jibri was gone, adding, "He doesn't want to hear the truth right now."
Jibri and David proceeded to work on their music, and David gave Jibri a hard time about texting Miona before shutting his phone off.
Jibri admitted he was tired of listening to complaints and was reaching a breaking point.
"Stop," Jibri told David, before hitting him on the back of the head and wrestling him to the ground.
YVE and MOHAMED
The morning after Yve and Mohamed's big fight over a bikini and Yve's friends, when they only had 81 days left to wed, Yve was upset because she believed Mohamed was trying to control her.
Yve felt bad, however, about Mohamed having felt uncomfortable and disrespected during their group outing at a restaurant with her girlfriends. Yve therefore wanted to move on from the argument and just have a nice morning with Mohamed.
Yve meant no disrespect and said she respected Mohamed's beliefs, and in order to prove that, she took Mohamed to a nearby mosque so they could pray together. Mohamed told Yve that she needed to wear a hijab, and Mohamed hoped Yve would see how beautiful his religion is.
"Maybe she's going to be interested in [becoming] a Muslim," Mohamed said.
Mohamed told Yve that the scarf made her look more beautiful, but she didn't like it and complained that it felt hot. Yve also didn't feel the need to cover her head and act like something she's not.
Before praying, the pair had to wash themselves, and Yve wasn't used to any of this. Religion was important to Mohamed because his father had been a man of faith and passed away.
Mohamed wanted to help Yve study Islam, and he explained to a few men at the mosque how Yve didn't like following rules and feeling inferior to men. Mohamed looked forward to spending more time at the mosque, but Yve hoped Mohamed wouldn't try to convince her to convert to Islam.
"I have no plans of converting," Yve said, which Mohamed found "very disappointing."
Yve told Mohamed that she would always support his religious life and whatever he chooses to do and believe, but she expected the same from him in return.
"But I wouldn't marry a person who doesn't prioritize my needs," Mohamed told the cameras. "Maybe she needs to become a Muslim for this relationship to work out."
Later on, Yve wanted to meet up with a girlfriend and have a glass of wine when he wanted her to stay home and watch a movie with him. He wasn't thrilled about her drinking and also didn't want Yve to "act like her friends."
Mohamed thought the opinions of Yve's friends were going to be very bad for their relationship, and Yve -- who admitted she was "super stressed" -- took the time with her friend to vent her frustrations.
"I'm very overwhelmed. I'm not second guessing it, but there's always a rule for something," Yve complained to her pal. "There are all these f-cking rules, and I cannot see myself converting. It doesn't sound good to me!"
Yve also shared how Mohamed had felt disrespected by all the sex talk at dinner a few days earlier. Yve hoped Mohamed could have fun nights out with her girlfriends and not feel judged.
Yve's friend cried about potentially losing Yve to Mohamed, which also brought tears to Yve's eyes. She didn't want Mohamed to use his religion as a way to control Yve.
BINIYAM and ARIELA
Ariela took Biniyam to check out an MMA gym in New Jersey, and she was clearly supporting his gym, but the drive was a whopping 45 minutes and the pair had a son to take care of. Ariela also wanted to begin working online again.
"I pictured us having a much more normal work-life balance here in the U.S. In Ethiopia, Biniyam worked a million hours around the clock, and it was an issue with us that Bini wasn't around enough for me and Avi. I don't want that to happen to us in the U.S.," Ariela explained in a confessional.
Biniyam thought the gym was wonderful and in pristine condition, and he showed off his skills and made Ariela proud. Biniyam was complimented on his movement and power, and an MMA coach was excited to work with Biniyam and train him to be victorious.
Biniyam was told he needed to train two to four hours per day, and Ariela worried Biniyam was going to prioritize his dreams over his family.
"It may prevent us from getting married," Ariela explained.
Biniyam proceeded to train for a week and even had an amateur fight coming up, but Ariela didn't like how he was so focused on MMA. Ariela said it would be helpful for Biniyam to watch Avi while she worked, but Biniyam hoped to make money at this eventually.
Ariela said she was doing "too much" because she was trying to take care of Avi while working on her phone.
That night, when Ariela picked Biniyam up at the gym, Biniyam was wrestling an attractive woman to the ground, and Ariela did not like what she was seeing.
"You didn't think to tell me that you'd be training with a girl?" Ariela snapped.
Ariela felt lied to, but Biniyam said he had forgotten to tell her. Biniyam claimed he had been training with many people, and she pointed out how the woman, Melissa, had a full face of makeup on.
Ariela said things like these were ruining her relationship, but Melissa insisted she had a competition coming up and just needed to train. Melissa said Ariela's insecurities needed to go because Biniyam was going to be a star and women have equal rights.
Ariela said she needed Biniyam to be honest and specific with details, and she called the situation "a nightmare."
PATRICK and THAIS
With 87 days left to wed, Patrick was shown taking Thais out on their official first date in the United States. Patrick said things had gotten a little better between Thais and his brother John, and Thais seemed happy to be in Austin.
Patrick shared with Thais how they'd be moving to Dallas soon for work, before their wedding date, and Thais predicted the move -- without John -- would be good for them.
"But John will go to Dallas too," Patrick said. "He will live with us."
Thais appeared shocked and asked, "Seriously?"
Thais had been hoping she and Patrick would have a fresh start in Dallas, and she complained that John was getting in the way.
Thais told Patrick to solve this problem because she wanted to live alone with him, but Patrick didn't seem willing to budge on this.
Thais questioned if Patrick really loved her and wanted to make her happy, but Patrick explained how he and John were trying to cope from past trauma and difficult childhoods and needed each other.
Patrick also told Thais that they weren't going to live with John forever.
Thais just hoped she hadn't made a mistake by moving to America for Patrick when his life was clearly so intertwined with John's life.
Patrick and Thais were then shown packing up for their move to Dallas. Patrick anticipated Thais would like their new house, and Patrick was looking forward to starting their life together there.
During the drive, Patrick and Thais apparently stopped at a deserted gas station to have sex, and then they arrived in Dallas.
John was waiting for them in the house, and he said he hoped he could have a brother and sister relationship with Thais.
Thais apparently liked Patrick's old house in Austin better, and she also didn't like the furniture John had picked out. Thais also complained about John occupying the whole second floor.
"I'm not feeling at home," Thais said. "It's a little small... Your [old] living room was so big... This house is a mess."
But Patrick reminded Thais how the home has two floors with four bedrooms and multiple bathrooms and the house was actually bigger than their previous home.
John feared Thais was expecting some sort of mansion, but it appeared John was the real problem for Thais.
Patrick said he had "zero" patience for Thais complaining about their house because he had grown up in a trailer park with six people, who had been sharing bedrooms. Patrick said it was almost a million-dollar house.
"If you don't like that, then this isn't going to work," Patrick said.