'The Bachelor' star Jason Mesnick eliminates Naomi Crespo
By John Bracchitta, 02/10/2009
A week after narrowly surviving elimination due to Jason Mesnick's concerns about her readiness to settle down and start a family, Naomi Crespo, a 24-year-old flight attendant from Carlsbad, CA was eliminated from The Bachelor during Monday's broadcast on ABC.
"I would've moved to Seattle in a heartbeat. It sucked that the reasons that I gave him that I don't wanna go home are the reasons I'm going home," Naomi said following her elimination. "I put myself out there, and I'm glad I did, but go figure, I finally admit that I'm falling in love and next thing I know I'm going home."
"I want to have a family I want my kids to have one place to call home. I really did think that it might be here I never wanted to have my heart broken again. I never wanted to feel the way I do right now," she added.
The Bachelor's sixth thirteenth-season episode began with Jason packing in Seattle along with his son Ty as he prepared to embark on hometown dates with the four remaining bachelorettes.
"[Hometown dates] are so important to me because it's a huge step in any relationship to meet somebody's family, and for these girls open up their hearts and their homes to me, means a lot," Jason said. "But this time round even thought I'm making the decision it's harder, it's way harder because it's not just about me, it's about Ty too, and I have to choose a person that's right for the two of us."
Jason first traveled to Kelowna, BC in Canada to visit the family of Jillian a 29-year-old interior designer from Peace River, AB.
"The thing that Jillian showed me more than anything in Seattle was that she's got that soft side, and what I saw in her is that she is that strong person for everybody," Jason said. "I still have some questions for Jillian as well, I need to find out [if she is] really into me as much as I'm into her."
Jillian explained that Kelowna was the town she had traveled to as a child to visit her grandparents during vacations before her parents moved there after she moved out of the house. When speaking of her family while she and Jason visited a local winery, Jillian revealed to Jason that the reason she had a tendency to be so controlling and sheltered was because her mother had been diagnosed with depression in the 1980's and had only recently been cured of it.
"I just really wanted you to know when you met them, just how incredible they are, and how lucky I am to have them." Jillian told him.
"Well, they're lucky to have you too," Jason responded, before later adding that he had appreciated Jillian's honesty and that it had made him "care about her more."
Jason then went with Jillian to visit her mother, father, cousin and her boyfriend and grandmother. After Jillian's father greeted him with a Canadian flag to wear around his back, Jason took time to talk with each of Jillian's family members. Among the topics that were discussed during the hometown meeting were Jillian's "hot dog rule," Jason's opinions on what his responsibilities would be as a husband to Jillian from her mother, and Jason asking Jillian's father how he dealt with the adversity of his wife's depression over the years.
While Jason spoke to her family, Jillian admitted to her cousin that she was beginning to feel more intense emotions for The Bachelor star.
"There's something about him that I've never had in any other guy," Jillian told her. "Like, he actually listens to what you're saying and I feel like he just has so much soul and so much character that we just have really, really connected throughout all of this.
The meeting culminated in Jillian's grandmother meeting and, to put it lightly, being impressed by Jason's appearance.
"Jason is very, very beautiful," she said. "He's a gorgeous guy and I am so excited for her because I told her that I was gonna take her up to Northern Alberta and marry her off to some Ukranian up there," she joked.
Following the meeting, both Jillian and Jason seemed satisfied by the way the day had gone.
"I'm aware that I could totally get my heart crushed, but the more time I spend with Jason the more I fall in love with him," Jillian said.
"I had so much fun with Jill and her family, and it was so comfortable," Jason added. "Without a doubt Jillian could be the one for me."
Jason's second hometown meeting brought him to Grand Rapids, MI where he met with Molly, a 24-year-old department store buyer, on the golf course of a local country club. Before beginning the date, Jason admitted to being worried about meeting Molly's family because of how important their approval of him would be to her.
"Molly had mentioned in the past that her parents' approval was very important to her, and it should be, so I felt nervous," Jason said. "If it's a no-go with her family, I'm sure it's a no-go with Molly."
After a quick game of golf, the couple traveled to the home of Molly's parents. After a quick discussion of the family's love for golf, Jason was surprised when Molly's mother brought out a "hat box" and had everyone put on embarrassing hats before taking Jason aside to have a "get to know you" conversation with him.
Molly's mother also asked him to draw a picture of Molly and highlight his favorite features of her. Jason responded by drawing an admittedly crude picture of Molly that highlighted her eyes and lips while she was being given a rose, impressing her mother.
"Jason drawing and wearing a headdress [hat] told me everything I needed to know," she said. "I don't want to give the impression that we're always crazy like this, but it just shows that he know how to have fun, and I thought oh buy this guy's perfect, this guy's perfect for us."
After Molly's father had a similar discussion with Jason, he found his daughter and called Jason "a good kid," and that he was "proud" of her.
Following the date, Molly was also impressed with way the day had gone and, with her parent's approval, said she was ready to pursue him fully.
"I knew that everything would change the minute I brought Jason home with me to meet my family, and they did love him," Molly said. "So I wanna let myself go be absolutely vulnerable to Jason and just fall in love with him."
"I knew that going to Michigan that her family was the most important thing to her... I'm just really grateful," Jason said. "The pressure's off. Today could not have gone any better... I can't get enough of Molly."
Jason's next hometown meeting brought him to Lake Elsinore, CA to meet with Naomi for what was undoubtedly Jason's most unconventional family meeting.
Prior to the date, Naomi admitted that she needed to impress Jason and clarify her desire to start a family after his doubts at the last Rose Ceremony.
"It definitely shook me because I'm definitely ready for [a family]," she said. "It is really important today that Jason knows this is a priority for me and I know that having a family I'm ready for it, and it's gonna make me happier than [traveling] anywhere in the world."
However, perhaps aware of the shenanigans that would soon follow, Naomi also said that she had a feeling her family would not make for a conventional meeting with Jason.
"I'm not sure what my mom's gonna have up her sleeve today, but there's gonna be something," she said.
Sure enough, upon arriving at Naomi's mother's house, where Jason met her divorced mother and father, brother, sister, half sister, niece and nephew, Naomi's fear's were confirmed when her mother asked Jason to give a eulogy for a dove she had struck and killed with her car and been preserving in her refrigerator.
"I can't believe my mother did this," an embarrassed Naomi said later. "'Hi Jason, meet my mother and a dead dove in the bag.'"
"When I showed up at the house today, I did not expect to be giving a eulogy," Jason added after the impromptu ceremony. "Naomi's mom hit a dove, the symbol of peace and freedom, and we're about to have a burial for [it.]"
The odd nature of the family meeting continued when Jason was quizzed on his religious beliefs by Naomi's father, before being stolen away by her mother and told by her that she had a premonition about him and that he -- much like her -- was an "indigo" who wanted to "see injustices in the world righted" and was part of the same "soul family" as her.
However, despite the odd nature of the meeting, both of Naomi's parents seemed to approve of Jason after hearing from Naomi that she was beginning to fall in love with him. She echoed their sentiments following the meeting after kissing Jason goodbye.
"I said after my last relationship that the next guy I fell in love with would be the one I married," she said. "I feel like Jason could be that one."
"I think Naomi's family is great. Really fun. [They're] out there in some ways, but there's a lot of love, without a doubt," Jason said following the date.
For Jason's last hometown meeting, he traveled to Dallas where he met with Melissa, a 25-year-old sales representative. After the two met, Melissa surprised Jason with a tooth-fairy-box for Ty to put his teeth in, impressing Jason very much.
However, Melissa had a second surprise for Jason that was far less positive as well. Despite Jason's being excited to meet her parents, Melissa revealed that he would only be able to meet her friends because her parents were not comfortable with meeting him on television and did not like the "public-ness" of the situation.
"It is disappointing not to meet Melissa's family today," Jason said later. "I mean, I came here to see if they get along with me, see what they think about me, see what they think about Melissa and I together. For me to make a full decision on who I want spend the rest of my life with, the family is part of it.
"I don't want this to sway any decision he has on me because of the fact that he won't be able to meet my family," a worried Melissa said after the revelation to Jason.
Instead of meeting her parents, Melissa said that Jason would be meeting two of her closest friends along with their husbands and one of the couple's two daughters.
Upon arriving at her friend's house, Jason was immediately impressed by the way Melissa played with both of her friend's daughters and how comfortable she was with them.
During dinner, Melissa's friends told Jason that she had been "used and abused" in prior relationships with guys who had preferred to party instead of spend time with her. They added that, after years of telling her to do so, that Melissa had finally decided to look for a different kind of relationship where she receives more respect.
Later, Melissa told her friends privately that she was indeed falling for Jason and that he made her feel "worthy and beautiful" as she began crying.
"It was really emotional, but it felt so good just to say 'Look where I am, look at how far I've come from you guys having to heal my heart and make me feel like I'm part of the group," she told them.
Jason also spoke glowingly of Melissa while playing pool with her friends, saying that she was "unbelievable."
Jason was surprised that her friends did not have much information regarding Melissa's parents. However, Melissa told him later her parents were very private -- hence their decision not to appear on the show. She added that while she was very different from them, she was similar in the sense that she was very nurturing like her mother, and adventurous like her dad.
Following the date, Melissa worried that her parents' failure to meet Jason would have a negative effect on her chances with him, but also admitted that she had fallen in love the "hardest that I have in a long, long time.
At the Rose Ceremony that took place back in Seattle following the hometown meetings, Jason first thanked the girls for allowing him to meet his family and said that his decision regarding who to eliminate had only been made harder after enjoying each one of their families.
He then revealed that Molly, Jillian and Melissa had received roses and would be moving on to the Final 3, while Naomi had been eliminated.
"It's not because I don't think you're wonderful, because I do. "It's not about your family, your family's amazing," Jason told her as he walked her out to the limousine. "I don't want you to think that, I loved your family. I just think that in my heart, I think that we're in different places."
"I know I am ready to settle down, and I know that with the right person I will." Naomi said after the elimination. "I didn't want that to be the reason. I wanted it to be because he felt stronger for the other women. That was what I was hoping to hear, not that I wasn't ready."
The next episode of The Bachelor will air on Monday, February 16 at 8PM ET/PT on ABC.