90 Day Fiance couple Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa are trying to get past their issues and improve their marriage on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, so are they still together -- or have Kalani and Asuelu broken up? What do 90 Day Fiance spoilers reveal about their current relationship?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report includes spoilers revealing if Kalani and Asuelu are still together now or if the 90 Day Fiance couple has broken up.]
Kalani, a 31-year-old from Orange County, CA, and Asuelu, a 24-year-old from Samoa, met in July 2016 when she had taken a trip to Samoa, where Asuelu worked as the activities director for the resort where she was staying.RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOW: WHO IS STILL TOGETHER? WHO HAS SPLIT? WHERE ARE THEY NOW? (PHOTOS)
During Kalani's second trip to Samoa, Kalani lost her virginity and got pregnant, which rocked Kalani's world and shocked her whole family.
Kalani's conservative Mormon family was disappointed in Kalani's choice of partner, especially since her father Low didn't want any of daughters to get involved with a Samoan man like himself, but Kalani wanted to follow her heart.
Kalani therefore applied for a K-1 visa so Asuelu could move to the United States and become a hands-on father to their son Oliver, who was born in January 2018 and was five months old at the time.
As shown on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance in 2019, Asuelu struggled to acclimate to American culture.
But Kalani still chose to marry her love, and so she and Asuelu tied the knot in September 2018. The season ended with Kalani finding out she was pregnant with their second child, which was another shock to her family.
Kalani gave birth to the couple's second son, Kennedy, in May 2019.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s fifth season, Kalani suggested her marriage was suffering and she was exhausted all the time.
Kalani and Asuelu moved in with Kalani's parents so they could help with the kids, but then Asuelu seemed to become insecure about not being the man of the house.
Kalani, Low and the family wanted Asuelu to "step up" and stop "f-cking around" playing video games and hanging out with his friends.
But Asuelu continued to disappoint Kalani and her family. He even called Kalani "annoying" and "a b-tch" in front of her mother during a trip to California for Oliver's second birthday.
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Kalani subsequently called Asuelu "a manipulator" and said she demands "an equal partnership."
Kalani wished her marriage was about love, happiness and supporting each other, but she believed Asuelu just wanted to take possession of her and had reached her "breaking point."
In attempt to talk out their issues, Kalani and Asuelu went to counseling, which led to a fairly happy three months until the global outbreak of coronavirus in early 2020, which put additional stress on Kalani and Asuelu's relationship.
Kalani said she and Asuelu were fighting all the time and he was lying about hanging out with his friends amid COVID-19.
During Part 1 of Happily Ever After?'s Season 5 Tell-All that aired in September 2020, Kalani and Asuelu apparently hadn't been communicating much at all and were in "a really rocky place."
Kalani explained she and her husband were in a toxic pattern of fighting -- with Asuelu coming and going -- and Asuelu had to stop being so combative and defensive.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s sixth-season premiere, Kalani and Asuelu were doing better as a couple and looking for a new house to move into so they could be a family in their own space.
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Kalani then learned her sister Kolini would be staying at her parents' house as well for a month or two, and Asuelu surprisingly reacted well to the news and promised to get along with Kolini.
Asuelu insisted he was a new man and that he and Kolini would have a fresh start.
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Kolini told the cameras Asuelu's kind and generous behavior seemed "a little fake" and "rehearsed," like "an act," but she appeared willing to give Kalani's husband the benefit of the doubt.
Kalani even noted it all felt "a little too good to be true" and she hoped "another round of bullsh-t" wasn't right around the corner.
Kolini wasn't happy upon hearing Kalani and Asuelu planned to buy a house together, especially when she learned from her sister that Kalani and Asuelu weren't even sleeping in the same room at night.
"He basically comes in the room and just wants to have sex at this point," Kalani told Kolini while shopping one day. "It's like we have conjugal visits at this point."
Kalani said there was no romance in her relationship and she basically lived with "a friend with benefits," although she admitted there weren't really any benefits for her in the situation.
Kalani told Kolini that Asuelu never took her out on dates or made her feel loved.
"He thinks no matter what he does, we're going to stay together... He doesn't think there are any consequences for his actions... Why am I in a relationship by myself? I am 'Single, Married,' and I don't want to be anymore," Kalani explained.
Kalani approached Asuelu about spicing up their love life and trying new things in the bedroom.
Asuelu told Kalani that he brought her pizza and food sometimes, but she said that's not romance because her brother sometimes brings her food and they clearly had two different definitions of the word "romance."
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Asuelu was annoyed Kalani had brought her brother into the conversation, but there seemed to be a language barrier between them and some miscommunication because Kalani was just trying to distinguish a gesture of love from romance with a partner or spouse.
"The littlest thing can set him off, and it's usually the dumbest thing," Kalani complained.
"I can't ever really tell him my real feelings or try to tell him what I think we should fix because he takes offense to everything... The whole thing is just crazy and psychotic."
Asuelu called Kalani's crying "annoying," but Kalani complained bottling up one's emotions and then exploding is more annoying.
"I feel like I, yet again, fooled myself into thinking that this marriage was on the right track and that Asuelu was finally going to change, but of course I was wrong and the whole thing just collapsed again," Kalani said in a confessional.
"If this is who he really is, I don't see us buying a house together. And quite frankly, I don't really see a relationship with us in the future. I can't keep doing this anymore."
Kalani's dad then attempted to save his daughter's marriage for the sake of his grandkids and Kalani's happiness. He tried to convince Kalani to work through her issues with Asuelu and continue co-parenting their two boys.
Kalani was then shown meeting with an immigration lawyer, Tyler Todd, to find out her rights given she and Low had decided to co-sponsor Asuelu and be his financial support system in the United States.
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Kalani said if she seriously went through with a divorce, she didn't want to leave her father in a tough position.
Tyler explained that Low had agreed to be financially responsible for Asuelu for 10 years but under former President Trump's new law, Low and Kalani will actually be financially responsible for Asuelu in America for his lifetime unless he gets deported or becomes an official U.S. citizen.
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Kalani had to decide whether she was going to stay married or become a single mom to two kids.
But everything changed once Asuelu got into a bad car accident in which he totaled his vehicle.
"To me, it was a wake-up call to see what I truly wanted," Kalani said.
"When Asuelu first called me about the accident, hearing the panic and the terror in his voice just scared the sh-t out of me. I've never felt that way with him. Divorce has been on my mind... but he could have died. I don't want him out of my life. I love him. It made me realize that I really do love him."
Kalani realized she didn't want her boys to live without their father either, and Asuelu said he felt the same way -- that he didn't want to lose his family.
Kalani and Asuelu then took their two sons mini-golfing and Asuelu revealed how he had planned a romantic getaway just for the two of them, for two or three days to a beautiful place.
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Asuelu said there was a hot tub and Kalani could play with bubbles. Asuelu intended to take better care of his wife and cuddle with her and share good energy.
But since Kalani was still breastfeeding, she asked if the boys and her mother could join them on the trip. Asuelu didn't like the idea of Kalani's mother being around because they could get into another fight, and Kalani also hoped there wouldn't be a repeat of California.
So are Asuelu and Kalani still together now or has the 90 Day Fiance couple split up and divorced?
Kalani and Asuelu put on a united front when they recently competed on 90 Day Fiance: Love Games on Discovery's new discovery+ streaming service.They appear to still be together and married -- at least as of February 2021, when Kalani revealed she and Asuelu were trying to rebuild their relationship and fix their problems.
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"I feel like it changes on a daily basis, like a lot of marriages. I think we are in an okay spot."
But Kalani couldn't say she and Asuelu were in a "great" or "perfect" spot.
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"I think we're good. We're working, we're both putting in the effort. It's not horrible like it was, but it's not amazing. We're getting there," Kalani shared.
"I would say we are getting to the right way. We are on the right track," Asuelu added.
However, Kalani is apparently approaching her marriage with a realistic point of view -- that it may not work out in the end.
"I just think that marriage is very hard and when you have a lot of other issues, like cultural issues and language issues and all of these things, it just makes it very complicated," Kalani told ET.
"But for right now, we are trying our best and hopefully, that works out. But, I mean, you never really know."
Asuelu also confirmed he started taking coronavirus seriously and "stopping going out" and "hanging out" with his friends.
Asuelu also said he regretted how he had treated Kalani on Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, including when he called Kalani a "lying b-tch" in front of her mother.
Asuelu, calling that insult his "lowest point," explained to ET, "I think that's not who I am. I watch it and I hate it, and I don't want to be that person, but you know, it's good. I learned, it's a good lesson... [I'm] growing up, and... [becoming] a better person."
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Kalani said Asuelu got attacked on social media for his behavior on the show.
"It just made him be better because a lot of people attacked him, so it made him look at himself and say, 'Yeah, probably shouldn't talk like that or do things like that.' So, I think overall, it probably helped our relationship more than anything," Kalani shared.
Kalani and Asuelu don't post about each other on Instagram or share photos with one another. Asuelu, for instance, has a surplus of videos with his two boys but Kalani isn't featured in any of them.
However, Kalani appeared to enjoy a family beach trip with Asuelu, her father, her two boys and her sister Kolini in March 2021.
Although Kalani cropped Asuelu's head out of the photos, his leg tattoos are a dead giveaway he was there.
And to ring in 2021, Kalani posted a video montage on Instagram of pictures taken in 2020, and Asuelu was featured in most of them.
Kalani and Asuelu also celebrated Christmas together in December 2020, and it seems they were still a couple one month earlier at Thanksgiving.
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