'90 Day Fiance' Spoilers: Are Emily Bieberly and Kobe Blaise still together? Did the '90 Day Fiance' couple get married or split up? (SPOILERS)
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 06/19/2022
90 Day Fiance's ninth season has shown Emily Bieberly's family worried about whether Kobe Blaise could take care of her long-term, so did Emily and Kobe make their relationship work and get married, or did they break up? What do 90 Day Fiance spoilers reveal about their relationship now?
[90 Day Fiance Spoilers: This report contains spoilers on Emily and Kobe's relationship and if the 90 Day Fiance couple split or got married -- and if they are still together].
Kobe from Cameroon, Africa and Emily from Salina, Kansas, met in Xi'an, China during a fun night out, at the end of which they conceived a baby.
Emily gave birth to her first child in July 2019 while she was still living in China, and then she had to return to the U.S. alone.
Once the coronavirus pandemic hit in early 2020, Kobe's K-1 visa was postponed two years, and so he had to miss the first two years of his beloved son Koban's life.
Emily revealed that she was excited for Kobe to meet their son in person for the very first time but she was also nervous how he would receive her because she had gained weight throughout her pregnancy and looked different from the last time he saw her in China.
She also stopped partying now that she had a child, and so she hoped Kobe would be okay with their new lifestyle.
Kobe and Emily's reunion at the airport was an emotional and wonderful one, but Kobe told the cameras, "She's changed, she's gained weight. But it's not about who she looks... I am complete... I can't wait to see my son right now."
Emily shared with Kobe how they were going to spend the night in a hotel together, where she'd dress up in some lingerie and could have some sexy time by themselves.
Kobe was initially disappointed because he really wanted to see Koban, and so he called her plan "selfish." But Emily wanted to make sure the couple still had chemistry that could get them through the next 90 days, and so Kobe put on a good face for Emily and ended up having a great evening with her.
After the couple slept together for the first time in two years, Emily confirmed they picked up right where they had left off.
"I love you!" Kobe gushed, adding how their sexual encounter had come naturally.
But the mood quickly shifted when Emily told Kobe that she didn't want to have to pay for everything, including her own engagement and/or wedding ring.
Emily said Kobe had proposed with a fake, gumball-machine ring and she wanted a real one, a ring that she could eventually pass down to her children. Emily knew Kobe wouldn't be able to work in the U.S. for awhile, but she still had demands.
On the way to Emily's house, Kobe could barely contain his excitement since his son was 17 months old.
"I don't know if her parents or her family are going to accept me," Kobe noted. "And I started thinking about, like, 'What if my son doesn't accept me either?'"
But Kobe was welcomed home with open arms, and Koban smiled at him, which caused Kobe to break down into tears.
Emily knew Kobe and Koban would develop a connection and good relationship in time, but she worried about co-parenting with him since she had never seen him act like a father or be hands-on with a baby before.
Kobe couldn't believe he was in the United States with his son Koban, but he didn't approve of Emily breast pumping in the living room out in the open and in front of her parents, David and Lisa. Kobe said it wasn't "the right way" to do things and she should pump in the basement by herself, and it seemed like nothing was going to change his mind.
Emily and her parents believed there was nothing wrong with breastfeeding out in the open or breastfeeding Koban for this long.
Emily's dad David called Kobe "strong-willed and forceful," and her mother Lisa said Kobe's behavior was disappointing.
"She is going to be my wife and we make love, and I have sucked her breasts, 'cause I love breasts, to be honest. So I can't be sharing breasts with my son. I don't want to sound selfish over here, but that's just the truth," Kobe explained in a confessional.
If this was already happening on Day 2, Emily wondered what her relationship was going to be like on Day 22.
Kobe told Emily that she was being disrespectful towards him, and Emily missed the sweet and laid-back man she had met and gotten to know in China.
"Now Kobe is this manly man, trying to tell me what to do. I'm a little taken aback!" Emily admitted.
The couple had trouble putting Koban to bed with them that night given Kobe was wired and got his son all worked up. Emily was overwhelmed and asked Kobe to sleep in a different bed, which was "very discouraging" and "frustrating" for him.
Kobe felt left out and said Emily was going to need to give him a chance to really become the father in Koban's life and participate and be a part of everything.
Kobe said he didn't move to America to sleep by himself and Emily had hurt his feelings.
However, Kobe planned to stay positive and optimistic -- until Emily criticized Kobe's parenting techniques and how he changed Koban's diaper.
Emily also didn't allow Kobe to drive in the United States with Koban in the car, which Kobe found insulting. She yelled at him, saying he wasn't going to drive her car, and Kobe complained in a confessional how Emily had "changed a lot" and he didn't like what he was seeing.
"Emily feels she already has a plan for everything and I'm just going to fill the space, but I'm not that kind of a person. I set my own rules and I live by those rules as a man," Kobe explained in a confessional.
Emily then gave Kobe a tour of downtown Salina and he didn't seem impressed at all. There were no clubs and cool nightlife, and it seemed Kobe had been envisioning a life in New York or Las Vegas.
Kobe told Emily that sometimes she acted too smart, like she knows everything, and it that type of behavior wasn't good for their relationship. Emily and Kobe were bickering, and Emily worried they were no longer on the same page.
"It's been exhausting. I don't know, maybe Kobe and I are fooling ourselves by trying to make this relationship work," Emily lamented.
Emily continued to monitor Kobe's parenting and criticize it.
Kobe also didn't take well to farm life. When he helped Emily's parents shovel horse manure, he vented to the cameras, "I miss life back home. And sometimes, part of me feels like Emily doesn't care about the sacrifices I made by leaving my home in Africa to be here, and it's really weighing down on me."
Emily even tried to tell Kobe how to shovel properly, but he begged her to just let him do things his way. They once again bickered, and Kobe accused Emily of wanting to fight about almost everything.
"You just want to control everything," Kobe complained.
Kobe told the cameras that Emily wasn't his boss and he felt like she was just trying to show her family that she was in control of him -- and he was "losing [his] patience."
"You're being rude," Emily said.
"I am not being rude. Can you just shut the f-ck up?" Kobe snapped.
"I cannot believe you just said that to me," Emily griped.
She stormed off and called Kobe "rude," and Emily began "second guessing" herself and whether she could marry a man willing to speak to her that way.
When Kobe and Emily reunited after a day's work, Emily had to pull an apology out of Kobe.
"We need to figure this out or this is not going to f-cking work. You don't see the big picture that what you had said to me is wrong," Emily explained.
"I'm sorry for saying that," Kobe replied, adding, "That was wrong."
Kobe said he loved Emily and wanted to marry her but she'd have to learn how to listen to him. And in turn, Emily said she never wanted to see Kobe act like that again but she would try to be less talkative.
Emily and Kobe later enjoyed a fun horseback riding date, but Emily knew another point of contention was nearing for the lovebirds: Emily needed to ask her family for money for her wedding, which she thought was going to hurt Kobe's pride.
Emily's parents were already paying for everything for Emily, and so her father said Kobe was going to need to prove he could provide for his family. They also didn't want Emily to rush into marriage if she wasn't ready.
Emily promised her parents that she "had it handled," but they feared Emily had no clue about how to live on her own, make rent payments and take care of herself.
David, an architect, later sat down with Kobe for a chat about his "serious concerns."
Emily's father asked Kobe, a former civil engineer, to reveal his "vision" and plans for the future in terms of finances, and Kobe mentioned maybe learning David's business and taking it over one day.
But Kobe had only graduated high school -- and with little training thereafter -- and so David called that plan "crazy" and admitted Kobe was "out of his mind" if he thought that was going to happen.
David told Kobe how he'd need over five years of training and more schooling, which would be very expensive.
Kobe said he had saved $4,000, which could last them a while, but David pointed out how that was not a lot of money in America and would only last a couple months.
Kobe had been thinking his money could fulfill the promises he had made to Emily, but now he was no longer sure. David advised Kobe and Emily to budget for food and rent and not treat his time in America like a big party.
David thought Kobe had good intentions, but he wasn't convinced love would be enough for this couple to thrive and prosper.
So did Kobe and Emily split up or get married, and is the 90 Day Fiance couple still together now?
Kobe posted a photo of Emily and their son Koban in late April and he captioned it with three red hearts and wrote, "My [heart] beats."
Emily appeared to be wearing a wedding ring in the photo, suggesting the pair may have gotten married once Kobe moved to the United States.
In the comments, the pair also wrote "love you" to each other.
In early May, Kobe uploaded a selfie with Emily and captioned it, "Somewhere safe."
A fan asked Kobe if he and Emily were still together, and he wrote, "We were meant for each other forever."
A few days later, Kobe gushed about Emily in a touching Instagram post for Mother's Day.
"Happy Mother's Day to all the beautiful moms out there who've been through a lot just to put a smile on a child's face. I wish my mom was still Alive so I could tell her how much I love her but still I got this wonderful woman who has made my life more meaningful," Kobe wrote.
"Babe, you are an example of what a good mom is all about, I love you and I really appreciate all you've been through in raising Koban in my absence. Happy Mother's Day once again."
Emily replied to the post, "I love you," along with a red heart. "Thanks, baby."
And then Kobe responded to her comment, "Love you."
However, by June, Kobe sparked breakup speculation by posting cryptic TikTok videos on Instagram about people needing to know their "worth" and "value."
"Know your worth and never feel bad to break a relationship or leave a place where you're not appreciated," Kobe captioned a video of himself telling fans to never let anybody make you feel less than.
"Some people are in your life for a reason while others are there for a season and most of the times those seasonal people in your life will make you feel like you can't survive without them. Remember God does not only bless people financially, taking someone out of your can also be a blessing. We move."
And on June 13, Kobe wrote on Instagram about how people need to love themselves and give themselves some credit when credit is due.
"Forget about our worries. It's another opportunity to reshape your life. It's a blessing... Do you know that you are important? Do you know that your dreams count? Your vision matters. Most of the time, we fail to acknowledge ourselves... You are important. Always start with yourself," Kobe said in a video.