Bethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy split reportedly sparked by "gender role" issues
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 12/28/2012
Bethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy apparently separated due to ongoing issues in their marriage they simply couldn't resolve with time or effort.
"There was no final straw. No one cheated. Their marriage just wasn't working," a source close to Frankel, the Bethenny Ever After star, told Us Weekly in its latest issue.
"They really tried, but they grew apart. She is very upset."
The couple met in November 2008 and got engaged 11 months later. They wed in March 2010 when Frankel was seven months pregnant with two-year-old daughter Bryn. Although friends of the pair reportedly thought they had rushed into their relationship, Frankel seemed okay with thoroughly getting to know her husband while married.
According to Us, Frankel and Hoppy began experiencing problems soon after tying the knot. They reportedly bickered often and the two would make comments about one another suggesting they weren't happy.
"My balls [were] cut off two years ago," Hoppy allegedly said in 2012.
Annoyed by his "nitpicking and moodiness," Frankel, the former Bethenny's Getting Married? and The Real Housewives of New York City star, would say on-camera during her reality series, "I'm walking on eggshells at home."
The couple's issues reportedly escalated mainly due to "gender roles," as Frankel happened to make more money than Hoppy after racking in a substantial amount of dough thanks to her reality shows, bestselling books, TV appearances, and Skinnygirl products.
"As a man, I never thought I'd be in a situation where my wife, financially, was this successful," Hoppy, who is in real estate, admitted on Bethenny Ever After.
While Frankel and Hoppy own a $5 million apartment in New York City, have taken private helicopter rides and have gone on numerous vacations together, Frankel reportedly paid the bill most of the time and it left Hoppy feeling "emasculated." Hoppy also allegedly turned down a full-time job under Frankel because he was too proud.
"[Jason]'s not particularly ambitious, and Bethenny is very driven," a source close to Frankel told Us.
Another major difference that created tension in their marriage was how different Frankel and Hoppy's families are from one another. Hoppy reportedly has a great relationship with his still-married parents, but Frankel had a difficult relationship with her now-deceased father -- who had walked out on her mother Bernadette when she was just four-years-old -- and her mother was allegedly an alcoholic and suffered "violent mood swings."
"Jason's family wants to embrace everyone and be a part of everything, and Bethenny is not used to that," said a source close to Hoppy, adding that Frankel even warned Hoppy's parents she wouldn't be present at every holiday gathering.
In addition, Frankel was pro-therapy in the hopes of mending her bruised marriage, but Hoppy believed they could work everything out on their own, Us reported.
"She took off work to spend time with Bryn and really try to make things work with Jason. She wanted to be off reality television so she could be with her family, [but they still] gave each other space at times," the source close to Frankel explained.
"Bethenny fought really hard for her family. She has nothing but love and respect for Jason."
According to Us, the split will be "amicable" and may even bring Frankel more success. Hoppy will reportedly be moving out of their apartment, and Frankel will be putting into motion her previously-arranged prenup.
"She's very smart. She will spin this into gold," said another source. "Her talk show will now be of interest to single moms and single women."
Bryn, however, has yet to learn the news of her parents' separation -- which Frankel had officially announced on Sunday.
"Bryn doesn't know yet," noted an insider.
Frankel is apparently waiting for the right time to explain the situation to her young daughter.
TheBethenny Ever After series showed footage of Hoppy and Frankel -- who first appeared on reality TV when she competed on The Apprentice: Martha Stewart in 2005 -- struggling in their marriage, and reports have circulated for months that the couple was on the verge of calling it quits.