'Married at First Sight' recap: Olajuwon says Katina should say "no" on Decision Day, Lindsey worries Mark isn't right for her, and Jasmina doesn't feel urge to kiss Michael
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 04/21/2022
Married at First Sight featured Lindsey Georgoulis worrying Mark Maher is not the right man for her, Katina Goode confessing Olajuwon Dickerson's need for attention may drain her, Jasmina Outar admitting she never felt the urge to kiss Michael Morency, and Noi Phommasak having an emotional breakthrough with Steve Moy during the Season 14 episode that aired Wednesday night on Lifetime.
The five brides who were selected to wed on Season 14 of Married at First Sight were Alyssa Ellman, 30, Katina, 29, Jasmina, 29, Lindsey, 34, and Noi, 33.
The five grooms who are starring on the new edition are Chris Collette, 35, Olajuwon, 29, Michael, 28, Mark, 37, and Steve, 38.
The couples matched by Married at First Sight experts Viviana, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, and Pastor Calvin Roberson are Lindsey and Mark, Alyssa and Chris, Jasmina and Michael, Katina and Olajuwon, and Noi and Steve.
Chris and Alyssa, however, chose to divorce one week into the experiment, and so other than a bowling night with their co-stars, they haven't been featured on the show since.
The four couples were shown leaving their Peru, Vermont retreat and heading back to Boston, and Jasmina felt closer to Michael than ever after they experienced a session with a medium.
Michael even shared with Jasmina how "two people" surrounding his brother's death referenced how two people were in the car with his brother. Following a road-rage incident, someone shot Michael's brother when he was sitting in the passenger seat and there was a driver as well as a person in the backseat at the time.
Katina also felt great about her relationship with Olajuwon, who motivated and inspired Katina to try new things. Katina, who never thought she'd walk an alpaca before, said her husband gave her confidence and made her feel like "a superwoman."
Olajuwon told his wife that he looked forward to diving deeper with her with some serious questions and moving forward.
"I'm worried about our future timeline. Can we have kids within two years? Am I going to sacrifice traveling? Am I going to sacrifice [seeing] if Katina can keep me satisfied [before then] while adding more to her plate? I don't have an answer," Olajuwon told the cameras.
The four couples then attempted to build emotional intimacy by looking into his or her spouse's past. They visited each other's hometowns, and the experts asked everyone to write their younger selves a letter with words of wisdom or encouragement.
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Jasmina brought Michael to her hometown of Hartford, CT, and explained how her parents got a divorce when she was younger and she had been through some tough things. She was willing to open up to him about "the good, the bad and the ugly."
Jasmina's father was always on the road as a truck driver and she was apparently missing some love in her household. She told Michael through reading her letter that her biological mother had left her and so did her father, and she got bullied in school and never received any affection from her first stepmother.
Jasmina said she felt alone in her childhood and school became her safe space. One person, one teacher, made all of the pain and loneliness Jasmina felt disappear, and so she went to school to be a teacher so she could be that same person for other children.
Jasmina's letter made Michael cry, and he appreciated her being super vulnerable with him. Michael realized they had made a lot of progress as a couple, and he complimented Jasmina on being strong, articulate and confident.
"It makes me proud of you," Michael told his wife.
Lindsey then told the cameras how Mark had spent the majority of their relationship saying she's "too much" -- too loving, too giving, too caring, too energetic.
Mark was caught telling Lindsey on-camera the previous night that she was "too much" in regards to her pinching him, licking his ears and being hyper all the time. Mark admitted that he didn't find that behavior fun or enjoyable.
"It makes me realize that he should find a lesser woman, because I don't want to make myself any less for someone else," Lindsey lamented in a confessional.
When Olajuwon brought Katina home to Brighton, MA, he said four people had been living in one room and he and his four siblings were raised by a single mother. (One of the boys had a room in the attic.)
Olajuwon and Katina were raised very differently, but Olajuwon was proud of growing up "in the projects" and becoming the man he is today -- someone who graduated from college, paid off his student loans, and bought and sold a home.
Olajuwon said he "got tough" on Katina and hadn't been easy on her because of how he was raised. Katina, on the other hand, grew up in the suburbs in a nice five-bedroom house with two bathrooms.
Olajuwon explained how he's not just an energetic guy who's good and then when he gets upset, he's not good. He thanked Katina for really getting to know him and maintaining an open mind about his approach to communication and expressing himself.
Dr. Pepper then visited Mark and Lindsey at their apartment with a week-and-a-half remaining until Decision Day.
Mark said his struggle in the marriage was having good times and then frustrating conversations.
"It's hard for me to be overly affectionate if we have difficult arguments that drain me. When we were in Vermont, I used the word 'hyper' and it triggered her," Mark told the expert.
"I would never know that. So I feel bad but I get frustrated, because I don't know all the words that trigger [Lindsey] to feel that way."
Pepper noted how hyper is not a compliment but Lindsey also needed to stop poking and prodding Mark when he asked her to.
Lindsey said she thought Mark was joking when he asked her to stop and he always "made justifications" for his behavior.
"You apologize and we resolve, but nothing is ever resolved. You walk away and you dismiss me," Lindsey vented.
"I'm at the point where if you don't want to care, then I don't want to care more. And I don't care! I'm not going to let you hurt me, no more. You don't get to come in anymore. The wall is up, you're out."
Pepper advised Lindsey to ask Mark if he didn't care, and Lindsey replied that she didn't even want to hear his answer.
"Because I'm not sure this is the right guy for me," Lindsey confessed.
Pepper, however, recommended that Lindsey listen to Mark's answer, and he assured his wife that he cared about her and never did anything to deliberately hurt her.
Lindsey accused Mark of not considering her and putting her wants and needs first, and she complained about not being able to keep his attention for five seconds.
Lindsey believed she had given the relationship her all, but Pepper said they needed to work on things that kept them from marriage up to that point.
Pepper asked Mark to pay Lindsey more attention because then some of her annoying behaviors would diminish, and she asked Lindsey to reduce the pressure and let Mark come to her sometimes.
But Lindsey vented about how she wanted a man to have fun with, someone who will be "dynamic" and embrace her and lean into her -- not tell her she's "too much" and to be less.
"I want someone who's going to try the new food and talk to the new person," Lindsey said.
Mark disagreed, saying he had tried new foods and Lindsey just needed to give him time to "get there" and let his feelings developed. Mark insisted he knows how to love someone and be romantic but Lindsey also needed to give him what he needed so that he could touch her heart.
With nine days to go until Decision Day, Michael brought Jasmina to his old neighborhood in Hyde Park, MA, and the house he had lived in from ages 14-19. Michael said he spent a lot of happy times with his mother in the house before she passed away from breast cancer.
Michael went through life as "a lone wolf" because of all the tragedy he had experienced, and he brought her to a baseball park where'd constantly play with his brother.
In Michael's letter, he told his younger self to let his emotions out because showing feelings does not make him weak or any less strong. Michael wrote how there is beauty in resilience and he should appreciate his mother more and hold her closer.
Michael acknowledged how it felt incredible to pour into someone and be so vulnerable with her but that he and Jasmina still had a lot to figure out before Decision Day.
Steve took Noi to his childhood home in Waltham, MA, where he had thrown parties as a teenager and now plays with his nieces and nephews.
Steve shared a bedroom with his two brothers and showed Noi his old stuffed animal, which she thought was sweet but also a little cringe-worthy.
Steve was voted "Best Dancer" in high school and admitted how he was pretty popular at the time, and he played a song for Noi called "Get Down" that he had recorded with friends -- a song which apparently became a hit in his neighborhood.
Noi realized Steve had a wonderful childhood and compared it to her own experience, which was drastically different. Noi felt she was a bit "tougher" than Steve because of her upbringing and thought Steve had it pretty easy.
With eight days to go until Decision Day, Mark brought his 14-year-old cat to the vet, who had an eye problem. Mark hoped everything was going to be okay, but the cat had something in his lungs that could spread and be painful.
Mark decided it would be in his cat's best interest to say goodbye, and Lindsey was there for her husband and called him "a good cat dad."
"I'm glad Lindsey is here to be supportive of me, and it's one of those events that when a couple goes through a tragedy, it can really shape a bond. So I'm glad we went through this together, and it's one of those things I won't forget," Mark said.
Katina was then shown bringing Olajuwon to church to pray with her because she had loved going to church when she was younger, and that's where she met one of her best friends.
Katina revealed how her mother had battled breast cancer and she prays every single day, which brings her a lot of peace in life. Katina said she'd like to raise her children in the church and then let them make up their own minds, and Olajuwon was on the same page about that.
After Noi and Steve took a dancing lesson together to remember Noi's happy childhood times when she would release stress through movement and listening to music, and Steve hoped to build an environment for Noi where she could dream and prosper from a personal standpoint.
Noi also explained that when she fought with Steve over social media, it was her way of trying to hold onto her independence, meaning her individuality and self-expression.
She said she didn't mean to hurt Steve, but he just asked her to be more considerate and keep him in mind when posting something publicly.
Steve said he'd never want to stifle Noi's creativity or individuality, but at the same time, he wanted to feel respected as well.
Later on, Jasmina and Michael met with Pepper, who said Jasmina seemed softer and more open. Jasmina said she no longer had to "pull teeth" to get information out of Michael, who shared how he was trying to let his walls down and not maintain a rock exterior.
Jasmina was trying to be less independent in the relationship so she could let Michael in, and the pair had apparently discussed having a child within one to three years. Jasmina wanted to start trying for a baby in about a year, and Michael seemed okay with that.
"We still aren't physical in the sense of kissing," Jasmina revealed. "This is the happiest I've been, but in that department, I'm just not there yet... I don't have the urge to just run up and lay one on him."
Michael called the news "hard to hear," but he said there was nothing he could do to force romance. Michael just planned to continue being a good husband.
Pepper asked the couple to at least cuddle and hold hands and do other forms of affection.
Pepper joked that sex is involved with starting a family, and Michael acknowledged how he needed romance to grow because he wanted a best friend as well as a romantic spouse.
Meanwhile, Noi read her letter to herself aloud to Steve, sharing how she felt like she was a burden to her mother, who worked extremely hard in a chicken factory to make money for the family. Noi also never felt like she could express her emotions without being reprimanded.
Noi assured her younger self that she's worthy and deserves her place in this world.
Steve recognized this was a sensitive topic for Noi, who felt like she didn't have a real childhood. Noi said she was always worried about her family and expressing herself and things always seemed heavy and scary to her.
Steve said he had "a lot of empathy" for the idea of Noi's parents working themselves to the bone to provide, which helped him understand why Noi needed a higher level of security when it comes to finances.
Lindsey then took Mark on a hike and reiterated how she never felt much love from her mother, who wanted to be a stay-at-home mom but "was not suited for that."
Lindsey said her father constantly worked but her mother carried the role of two parents and didn't handle the stress of that well. Lindsey therefore tried to get out into the woods in order to stay busy and keep her mind off things.
Mark assured Lindsey that he appreciated her, even though he didn't say it a lot, and she said she was finally hearing it and feeling the love.
With just about a week to go until Decision Day, Noi and Steve sat down with Pepper for a chat.
In terms of not living together after Decision Day, Steve said he'd like to give Noi her independence but didn't like the idea of them always living apart.
Pepper revealed how she and her husband live apart but her first marriage failed, and she pointed out how the couple may want to co-exist once they have children together.
"We want to try to incorporate each other into our routines as much as possible," Noi told Steve. "I'm just not sure exactly what that's going to look like yet, but I know that I want you to be in my life every day. I don't know how we're going to do that; we haven't come to a resolution for everything."
Steve hoped to raise kids under one roof, so the couple still had quite a bit to discuss.
Mark was then shown bringing Lindsey to his parents' house in Quincy, MA, where he had grown up. It had been two years since he lived there, which was when his father had also passed away.
Mark immediately got emotional and seemed to shut down a bit when looking at his old house. He remembered his father sitting outside while his mother yelled at him through a window.
In Mark's letter, he wrote how his mother had taken care of the house -- cooking and cleaning -- and he should take pictures and videos with his parents to appreciate when he's older.
"Where we align is so deep and connected that it's a gift I don't think many other people are able to have," Lindsey told the cameras of her marriage.
Mark pictured moving into this home someday with his wife, but Lindsey didn't seem onboard with that. Lindsey said she didn't want to compete with the past and desire a new beginning with Mark.
Pepper then met with Olajuwon and Katina, and Olajuwon shared how he had told Katina to "shut up for a second" during an argument, which he immediately regretted and apologized for. Olajuwon said he was learning how to speak to his wife properly but they needed to make plans past growing in like with each other.
Katina appeared quiet as Olajuwon spoke about their different timelines for starting children. He was worried Katina may become overwhelmed with her career and kids, and Katina also worried about juggling her husband and children's needs.
"All men need attention, but I think he requires a little bit of a higher level of attention," Katina said. "And he already is, no offense, a lot to deal with. It could be draining in a sense, for me personally."
Olajuwon broke down into tears, worried about Katina finishing school. She was on her way to obtaining her Bachelor's Degree and then she intended to go to nursing school.
Olajuwon said he wanted her to focus on herself for the next two years, and he didn't want to take away from that independence and experience.
Olajuwon didn't want to lose Katina, but he also said he'd be ready and waiting for Katina if she needed those two years for herself. Olajuwon said if he had been in Katina's shoes, he would probably say "no" on Decision Day in order to better herself.
"If you care about somebody, you always look out for what's best for them," Olajuwon said in tears.