Sean Lowe: I denied Selma Alameri a 'Bachelor' rose because she wouldn't compromise
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 02/06/2013
Sean Lowe apparently believes a "my way or the highway" attitude is not only unattractive but a dealbreaker -- as he proved by eliminating bachelorette Selma Alameri during Tuesday night's The Bachelor broadcast.
During Sean's group date with seven women, The Bachelor star was hopeful they'd all take the spontaneous and daring "polar bear plunge" in Canada, which required them to fully submerge themselves in nearly freezing water. However, Alameri simply refused to do the challenge and wasn't going to budge.
"Some of the women were willing to jump in the water, others were more reluctant -- and then there was Selma. It didn't bother me that she didn't want to participate. It bothered me that she didn't even consider it. Later she told me that when she says no, nothing can change her mind. As if that's a good thing!" Lowe wrote in his People blog.
"I thought you were supposed to compromise and talk things through in a marriage. That reasoning was a large part of why I didn't give Selma a rose that week... I never imagined sending Selma home. After our one-on-one date in Joshua Tree, I thought she might be the one. But in the end, her unwillingness to compromise told me that she probably wasn't the girl for me."
As for whether Lowe is convinced Tierra LiCausi experienced hypothermia from taking the plunge, he said, "In hindsight, I'm not so sure... but she played the part well."
During the latter part of the group date, Lowe was, however, convinced of one thing -- that he had to let the sweet Sarah Herron go.
"I knew Sarah was not the one for me and I needed to send her home... Sending Sarah home was one of the hardest things I did during the season. It hurts me that she left feeling the way she did. She's such a beautiful, bright woman, and some man is going to love her forever. I just knew that man wasn't me," the Bachelor wrote, adding that it wasn't easy to eliminateDaniella McBride either.
"And Daniella was equally as hard to say goodbye to, because she was so much fun to be with. We just ran out of time. Our relationship started too late and my feelings for the remaining women were a little bit stronger."
"[Des] opened up to me about her childhood and how growing up with very little money has made her who she is today. It made perfect sense to me after hearing her story why Des sometimes hides her true feelings behind a smile. She probably had to put on a brave face during tough times as a kid," Lowe said.
"I found myself wanting to be the man that supports her and makes her feel safe. Des and I finished the evening kissing and making finger puppets on the walls of our teepee. Once again, she was at the top of my list."
And although Catherine Giudici has been under the radar so far this season, Lowe's one-on-one date with her made him realize she was going to be a true contender for his heart.
"I had just recently started to develop real feelings for Catherine. Our relationship was slower to develop than some of the others, but being with her felt natural. There was never a shortage of laughs, and she seemed like someone who truly fit the 'best friend' description I had been searching for," Lowe explained.
"We were able to bounce between serious moments and goofy moments so well. The night ended with kisses in the falling snow and I didn't want to say goodnight. The date helped put me back in a positive mental state. I felt hopeful again."