'American Idol' judge Jennifer Lopez: I like a little turbulence in my relationships
By Elizabeth Kwiatkowski, 01/28/2014
Jennifer Lopez, who is currently dating Casper Smart, admits she actually likes a little conflict in her romantic relationships as long as there are more ups than downs.
"The dream is to have a balance where you feel you could relinquish control from time to time and still be taken care of. What you want to do has to be respected. It's about finding a relationship that has enough good stuff to outweigh the bad, because nobody's perfect right? But without the spark that conflict brings, life would be so boring. I want a bit of chaos in a relationship, but I also want a bit of safety and order," the American Idol judge told Glamour's U.K. edition, according toPeople.
"It's taken me a long time to get to this place, but I've learned that I don't ever want to go against my own integrity in a relationship. If something doesn't feel right to me or makes me feel uncomfortable, I don't want to go along with it -- and sometimes as women we do that. But I won't accept it any more."
Lopez will also no longer accept the desire to be perfect, as she's come to grips with the fact it's okay to let loose a bit on her exercise routine.
"I've got an athletic body, I've worked out my whole life and I've been incredibly disciplined when I needed to be," the 44-year-old singer and actress reportedly explained. "Now I'm just a little bit more relaxed in that area. I feel like this is who I am. But it's also hard to shed that old skin."
However, Lopez reportedly said she can't help being focused on the way she looks.
"Mentally, I'm always thinking about it," she told the magazine. "I'm okay looking this way, but at the same time that very ambitious, determined girl inside me is like, 'Come on, let's be in the best shape ever and really show everybody.' Then the other side of me thinks: 'Let's just relax on the beach chair.'"
One thing is for sure though, you won't catch Lopez overeating.
"I'm not one to overindulge," Lopez said, People reported. "It doesn't make me feel good. Some people find it comforting to sit down and eat a whole pint of HÃ¤agen-Dazs, but honestly that would make me throw up. I don't think I've ever eaten that much."