90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days has shown Darcey Silva learning Tom Brooks is not in love with her although she had been hoping for a marriage proposal, so did this couple end up lasting? Are they still together or did they break up?
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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days has shown Darcey feeling like her relationship with Tom is much further along than he views their romance.
Darcey apparently missed out on her chance for an engagement and has been trying to pick up the pieces every since. So did this couple work out?
Keep reading to find out the spoilers below.
Darcey, a 44-year-old from Middletown, CT, previously starred on Season 2 of Before the 90 Days with her now ex-boyfriend, Jesse Meester from Amsterdam, with whom she had a toxic relationship.
The mother of two insisted she'd never let a man control her or be mean to her again, and she was done with constant bickering and fighting in a relationship.
Darcey therefore moved on with Tom, a 39-year-old distributor for a sports fitness brand from United Kingdom, who allegedly treated her much better.
Darcey and the "jet-setter" met on Facebook a whopping four years ago.
They had actually planned to meet up in person at the time, but Darcey chose to pursue a romance with Jesse instead. Although Darcey said she remained loyal to Jesse, Tom was apparently always in the back of her mind.
Once Darcey and Tom got to know each other better over the phone and video chat, she found him to be kind and supportive.
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RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWDarcey gushed about being in love again, and she felt certain this time would be different considering her dynamic with Tom was healthy and positive.
"With Jesse, it felt like a false love, but I feel Tom is the right one for me," Darcey told the cameras.
Darcey's twin sister Stacey, however, was concerned Darcey was going to take things too fast and get hurt. She accused Darcey of having unrealistic expectations and Tom of not being ready to settle down, but Darcey just wanted everyone to be happy for her.
Darcey said she even had a beautiful ring to prove Tom cared about her, and she wore it on her left hand. (Jesse allegedly blasted her on social media for it being a fake engagement ring).
There were red flags, however, that maybe Darcey ignored. Tom didn't want to pick her up at the airport because she wouldn't have had time to freshen up, and he flirted with Darcey's pal on FaceTime when the girls went out drinking in the United States.
Darcey wondered how Tom acted when she wasn't around, but she knew she needed to have trust and not be insecure.
"I wouldn't be going to meet him if I didn't think he was ready to settle down... but with Jesse, I got taken advantage of, and I don't want that to happen ever again," Darcey said in a confessional.
She later said, "I hope Tom is who he says he is in person. I'll guard my heart a little bit, but at the same time, it's open for the real deal."
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Tom claimed he was looking to settle down and progress a relationship past the bedroom, but this was apparently unknown territory for him.
Tom said Darcey was romantic and could put a smile on his face in the darkest of days. He thought Darcey was an extremely attractive woman and said he couldn't take her eyes off her.
Tom also helped Darcey get through her breakup with Jesse, which showed him that he really must care for her.
As a result, Tom didn't want to treat Darcey like a one-night stand, and so once she arrived in London, he booked a separate room for her at a hotel.
Tom's sister Emma then revealed Tom had walls up because he had been hurt badly before and he didn't seem ready to settle down.
Tom admitted to his sister Emma that Darcey loved him but it's a difficult thing to say back. Tom wouldn't even acknowledge Darcey was his girlfriend, saying they were just an "item" and "more than friends."
"I'm not really at the stage of thinking where I'm going to settle down, get married, have kids, and move to her country or have her move here. I'm at the point where I'm meeting someone I've been really good friends with and I'm going to see where it goes," Tom told Emma.
Tom said Darcey lived in "a bit of a fantasy" when it comes to romance and he didn't want to rush things.
"I want to take my time, and I hope she won't be upset by that," Tom said in a confessional.
Darcey and Tom finally met at a restaurant, and he thought she looked even more beautiful than her photos.
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Tom wasn't sure Darcey was thrilled upon seeing him for the first time in person, but she assured him that he was even better than what she had expected.
Darcey said Tom wasn't exactly fit "like a gym boy," but that's not really what she wanted. She said he had the "it factor" with his handsome looks and good style.
But once Tom broke the news of Darcey having her own room, she was definitely surprised. After knowing each other for four years and flirting over the phone, she couldn't believe Tom didn't want to spend the night with her.
"Darcey is coming onto me very strong," Tom told the cameras.
Darcey appreciated the fact Tom was acting like a gentleman, but she also wanted to feel like Tom was really into her -- and she wasn't quite sure about that. Darcey thought their relationship was on a different level and that maybe they weren't on the same page after all.
After dinner, Tom took Darcey to her Air BnB, and she insisted their chemistry was there.
When the pair arrived at the Air BnB, Darcey couldn't believe how nice the space was. Tom told Darcey she was beautiful, funny, attractive and had been choosing the wrong men. With that being said, she broke down into tears.
Darcey said she felt stronger than ever but never wanted a man to "chip away" at her again. Darcey cried about how nice it was to have Tom doting on her and pulling out her chair at dinner.
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"I hope you don't feel like this every time I do something nice," Tom told Darcey in a rather surprising reaction.
He then told the cameras Darcey is "a very emotional person."
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Tom said Darcey wore her heart on her sleeve, which was different for him. But Darcey felt close to him and believed she could open up to him about anything.
During their first night together, Darcey cried and asked Tom to stay with her, and he said it felt like "babysitting."
"If it continues like this, it may not be the romantic getaway I thought it would be," Tom told the cameras.
The pair apparently did nothing but sleep, but it definitely wasn't a romantic evening.
Tom said Darcey had too many drinks and was snoring in her sleep. In addition, he accused her of accidentally hitting him in the face during the night, causing his nose to bleed. Tom found Darcey "difficult to deal with" that night.
Darcey was a little embarrassed but glad at the same time Tom had put her to bed safe and sound.
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Tom then planned a nice day for Darcey and himself, hoping they could start fresh and have a better day together. They took a romantic boat ride, and Darcey felt like she was in a fairy tale. She loved seeing his side of the world.
Over a glass of champagne, Darcey then asked Tom where they stood in their relationship. She felt they had been dating for four years, but Tom said this was only their second date. He would not confirm they were even exclusive to Darcey.
"I've been seeing other women. But I told them I wouldn't be seeing them anymore," Tom said in a confessional. "I want to see where this goes with Darcey. I want to see if this love affair and romance, which it could be, could become something more of a long-term thing."
Darcey admitted it was "hurtful to hear" Tom had been seeing other women up to a week before her arrival. Tom suggested they were on a trial basis, and then Darcey acknowledged she had assumed "too much, too soon."
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Darcey wanted to hear from Stacey that Tom was the right guy for her, and so Tom reluctantly but ultimately obliged.
After the couple played cricket together, Darcey said she was "ready for some passion." But Tom didn't seem ready. Darcey therefore began feeling insecure and wondered if she should pull back a bit.
Darcey admitted she was "falling in love" with Tom but something was "a little off." She knew he cared about her given he had agreed to go to Albania, but Darcey feared Tom was "holding something in."
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Tom was more reserved in his behavior than Darcey and wondered if Darcey's over-the-top words were sincere and genuine. He wasn't used to women being so open and vulnerable, and so he almost seemed annoyed Darcey was so complimentary and excited about everything he was doing for her.
"There's a part of me that worries the sexual chemistry might not be there, but I hope there will be fireworks. I mean, I just want to feel his passion. I'm so ready for that," Darcey said in a confessional.
Darcey and Tom then finally made love, and according to Darcey, the passion was there.
The couple agreed the night was romantic and Darcey noted it was "everlasting" and she was happy they had finally "sealed the deal."
Tom was glad the pair had waited to be intimate, and he couldn't wait to see where their relationship led.
Darcey said the night pushed them 10 steps in the right direction and it was "such a relief." She finally felt like they were on "the same page."
While shopping around town, the pair walked by a jewelry store and Darcey pointed out she likes white diamonds. Tom noted Darcey put a lot of pressure on getting engaged and wanting to be married, but he wanted to take his time with the relationship to make sure she's The One.
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Tom then brought Darcey out to a club, where she met a couple of girls who happened to be Tom's good friends. However, had dated one of the women named Roucelle for three or four months.
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Darcey thought it was "a little odd" he had invited an ex-girlfriend to come out with them, but Darcey intended to be nice and hoped his friends would accept her.
Tom told the cameras Roucelle didn't have much of a filter, so he didn't know what to expect or how the night would go. Tom wouldn't even tell his friends that he and Darcey were exclusive or boyfriend/girlfriend.
Roucelle admitted during the gathering Tom could be "quite disconnected with his emotions sometimes." She warned Darcey that Tom tended to disappear and close himself off.
Darcey told Roucelle that she wanted to dig deeper and establish more of a connection, but Roucelle pointed out that was going to be difficult.
Tom admitted he had walls up and was guarded because he had been engaged twice before, and both times, the women left him.
"Maybe I can't commit because of the way things were in the past," Tom said in a confessional.
Roucelle thought Darcey seemed "really nice," but she told Tom that she couldn't picture them together once Darcey left the table to go to the bathroom.
Tom couldn't admit he was in love, and Roucelle insisted Tom wasn't "emotionally capable" of feeling that way or embracing his emotions.
Darcey and Tom then flew to Albania together so Tom could meet Stacey and Stacey's fiance. Tom called the trip "a finger in the eye," but he knew relationships are all about compromise.
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Darcey was really excited about the meeting, but she desperately wanted Stacey to approve of her relationship. The last time Stacey had met one of Darcey's boyfriends, it was Jesse Meester and Stacey simply wasn't a fan.
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Darcey acknowledged Stacey had insisted Jesse was bad for her the whole time but Darcey never listened -- and she probably should have.
Tom figured he would learn a lot about Darcey through watching her interact with her twin sister, but what he learned didn't turn out to be all good.
First of all, the gathering got off to a bad start because Stacey and her fiance were 40 minutes later to dinner. Tom joked about waiting nine hours for Stacey's arrival, which didn't seem to go over well.
Darcey also seemed a little annoyed Stacey was all dolled up, and then Tom admitted he'd rather be in Gran Canaria with Darcey alone. Stacey called Darcey "a free spirit," while Tom seemed more structured, like Darcey's ex Jesse.
Stacey noticed Darcey "smiled a lot more" around Tom, and Darcey said she could envision herself moving to and living in London, England. If Tom popped the question at this point, Darcey would've said yes.
Tom, however, noted Darcey was acting like they were going to get engaged soon, and Tom told the cameras it was "awkward" because he had yet to determine how he really felt about Darcey.
Darcey said she and Stacey were each other's best friend but they could also be enemies at times given their relationship was so unique.
"I don't think we're jealous of each other, I think it's just about one having to do it up a little bit more than the other," Darcey explained.
The girls bickered a bit in front of their men, with Stacey accused Darcey of trying to "one up" her all the time. Neither sister was certain the other wanted to see her happy.
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Darcey was upset because Tom was seeing things she didn't want him to see. She also got emotional about her relationship with Stacey and how Tom might have perceived it.
Tom described her dynamic with her twin sister as "tit for tat" because they always tried to one up each other.
Tom let Darcey know that she had acted immature, but Darcey blamed her sister for doing the same thing. The dynamic between sisters was unfortunate, and Darcey felt bad Tom was not in a good headspace because of it.
Darcey later joined her Stacey for coffee without their guys, and Darcey let her sister know she wasn't happy.
Stacey, however, suggested Tom might've been making excuses because he just wasn't into Darcey. Stacey questioned whether Tom was blaming her for his lack of feelings for Darcey.
Darcey told Stacey that her relationship wasn't perfect, especially considering she was still engaged after many years and not marry, but Stacey pointed out she takes things slower in a relationship as a way to not get hurt or make mistakes.
Afterward, Darcey, Tom, Stacey and Stacey's fiance traveled to a market that was about one hour away, and Tom got sick while sitting in the back of the van. Darcey was hoping for a romantic, magical trip, but things clearly weren't turning out that way.
Tom thought the market was just "a flea market," and he wasn't impressed. Tom felt he needed to spend some time with Darcey alone in order to improve the romantic connection Darcey had been desiring.
Tom told Darcey that she changed when she was around her sister and the trip was supposed to be about them. Tom said the trip was not romantic and he felt like they were just two friends hanging out together.
Darcey felt guilty because she didn't think Tom was having a good time. She worried Tom's feelings for her would be stronger had they went through with his planned trip to Gran Canaria instead.
Tom even pointed out he had considered proposing marriage to Darcey in Gran Canaria, where his parents had gotten engaged, which made Darcey cry and feel deflated.
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Tom said he and Darcey might've gotten swept up in the moment because the location and setting is beautiful.
"We would've been much more romantic towards each other," Tom said in a confessional. "Having been to Albania and it not been like that, I actually saw what Darcey is all about, and now I'm not 100 percent sure where we're at in the relationship."
Tom said there was half of Darcey that he loved and wanted to spend the rest of his life with but then there was half of her that he just wanted to be friends with.
Darcey said she had missed out on what could've been the best day of her life. She resented her sister for asking her to come to Albania in the first place and blamed Stacey for ruining everything.
As shown in the latest episode, Darcey had been with Tom for one week, and Stacey, Darcey, and Stacey's fiance Florian were all heading out to a bar, all dressed up.
Stacey and Darcey were bickering frequently and Tom didn't like it. Darcey said Stacey was "taking every opportunity" to throw her relationship in her face given they had been engaged for over three years.
Tom noticed Darcey was bothered by Stacey's romance and said she was acted childish and jealous. Tom said Darcey was completely unaware of her behavior and how it affected everyone around her.
Darcey told Stacey that she wouldn't let her "f-ck up" her relationship with Tom, but Stacey insisted she wanted her twin sister's happiness. The twins just argued back and forth, and then Darcey broke down into tears at the bar.
Florian thought Darcey needed to hear "I love you" from Tom in order to feel happy and good about herself. Tom told Darcey that she was being "rude" to her sister, and then Darcey stood up and went to the bathroom.
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Tom was confused and didn't understand why Darcey was acting this way and making him feel so uncomfortable. Tom didn't want to suffer because Darcey's last relationship had suffered.
"Darcey wants love so badly that when things don't go her way, when things go wrong, she places blame on everybody else. I can see Tom distancing himself from her, and I'm afraid she's going to lose him for good," Stacey told the cameras.
Darcey called the trip to Albania "a disaster," and she only had one week left with Tom. She worried about leaving London, England without a proposal -- and maybe even without a relationship.
When Darcey returned to the table, she started to cry, saying Tom was not "in love" with her yet.
"Why do you think I don't love you?" Tom asked.
"I feel like I'm not good enough for you," Darcey told him.
Tom told Darcey that was a sign of how she felt about herself, but Darcey wasn't sure where she fit into Tom's life.
"You want me to get on my knees and say, 'I love you?' That's not going to happen. You are seeking approval; I don't want to appease that. I don't. I really don't," Tom told her.
"Where does that leave us?" she asked.
"I don't know," Tom replied.
Did Tom ever fall for Darcey? Is the 90 Day Fiance couple still together?
While they are both still actively posting, Darcey and Tom's Instagram profiles were each recently changed to private.ADVERTISEMENT
Darcey had posted a few photos of Tom over the last two months, but she removed all of them.
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On September 4, Darcey had posted a photo of Tom and captioned it, "Living legend! With my heart wide open and all love. My rock! Perfect gentleman with a heart of gold!"
And in mid-August, Darcey shared a photo on Instagram of Tom taking a selfie and poked fun at his 45-degree angle handsome look.
"Keep your eyes on the prize," she wrote.
Darcey also deleted a photo she had of Tom's dating-app profile that she had captioned with a heart.
As for Tom, there is little indication on his account that he's still in a relationship with Darcey.
According to the Frauded By TLC Instagram account, Tom has been spotted out with a blonde woman on a couple different occasions in recent weeks, and the pair even allegedly attended a Versace fashion show in Milan together in mid-September.
Tom "was allegedly recently seen spotted at a cafe in Milan with this definitely-not-Darcey beauty and there was most definitely ass-grabbing involved," the Frauded By TLC Instagram account captioned an apparent photo showing Tom and the busty blonde woman posing for a photo in front of a Versace photo backdrop.
"Allegedly, there is another girl whom Tom was cheating on with this girl."
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Meanwhile, Darcey appears to have also been in Europe at the same time Tom was allegedly in Milan -- however instead of being in Milan with Tom, she was in Malta with her sister Stacey!
Beginning September 20 -- the same alleged date of the Versace fashion show, coincidence? -- Darcey began plastering her own Instagram account with postings showing her partying it up in Malta with her twin sister Stacey to celebrate their birthdays.
"Malta your Silva Twins are on our way! Thank you to everyone that is making this luxurious twin trip one in a million! We love you all and love all our fans from Malta! Come join us for our Silva Stars," she captioned a September 17 photo promoting the pair's then upcoming trip.
"Darcey & Stacey meet and greet, press event and another twin treat for our birthday on September 23rd! Let's have the trip of a lifetime! Living the fab life! It will be twintastic."
Then, starting September 20, Darcey posted over a dozen sexy photos and videos over the next week or so showing her having a great time partying and enjoying the sun in Malta.
While it takes less than two hours to fly from Milan to Malta, there is no social-media activity indicating Tom visited Darcey in Malta during her stay in the European country.
Prior to the pair's recent social-media activity, Darcey had said she was still in a relationship with Tom and they were happy during an early August interview with Newsweek.
"We're very good. We're very happy. Things have been amazing and some people might see it that way and some people might see it a different way," Darcey said.
"You'll have to go through the journey along with us."
Darcey added in her interview that Tom's "an amazing guy" and "a great guy."
"We have a really deep connection and have a lot in common... I love his voice. It's very sexy, very James Bond," she said.
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"He's older. He's lived life. He's a jetsetter. He owns his own company. He's very experienced in life and he elevates me. I never feel put down," Darcey shared with Newsweek.
"It was something I had to explore because maybe he could be the one so I decided to do that journey again. I don't regret it."
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Prior to her trip to Malta, there had also been no sign Darcey had left the United States since January 2019, when she posted a close-up photo of Tom carrying her and her designer boots across a cobblestone street while she was visiting the U.K.
"Getting carried away in London," Darcey captioned the image, which did not reveal Tom's face at the time.
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